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12/28/2014

Getting Unstuck
By Natasha Rosewood

According to some between January 29 and February 12 is the worst time of the year. “Don’t start anything new during this ending period,” they advise. “It won’t last.” February, however, can be a great time to meditate on new beginnings. But what if you have no direction? What if you are STUCK?

You are probably in good company. Psychic or not, sometimes my own future is indefinable. I just don’t know. Or that’s what I tell myself anyway. Some hidden fear may be lurking in my unconscious mind and creating a smokescreen.

Metaphorically, energy or “chi” is like a flowing river. When we feel stuck, the flow of that river is caught in an eddy. Our chi is going around and around in circles and being sucked down into a bottomless vortex.

Remember, though, this is only your mind telling you that you are stuck. Energy by its very definition means motion and, therefore, cannot stay still. “Stuckness” is just an illusion and sometimes, merely a judgment of where you have not yet arrived. Your ego mind, your conscious waking-state chatters at you, berating you constantly with “I should be doing. . . ” or “what’s wrong with me?” or “I don’t know…” et al.

But stuckness does not have to be suffered. It can be celebrated.

The good news is that feeling stuck is part of the human process and, believe it or not, serves a purpose. Stuckness is about standing still for a while and allowing us to take stock. In our Western culture and our headlong rush towards success and then death, (not always in that order) we do not allow ourselves permission to not know our destination. And if you resist your stuckness, it will only expand.

So just for today, give yourself permission to see your situation differently. Sit down, put your feet up, take a load off and read the following ten tips to honoring stuckness.

Accept what is now. Everything is in perfect divine right order. Therefore, you are not stuck, just resting.

Let your life unfold naturally. If you are unable to make a decision, it means you do not have all the information yet. Wait and trust. Ask for help. Consult your psychic, coach, counselor, spirit guides or angels. Be open to a different perspective.

Throw an “idea party.” Brainstorm, exchange ideas, give and receive support.

Invite someone you admire to be your mentor. (Most people love to give advice!)

Recognize that you are not stuck, merely regrouping and preparing for a new life. Be thankful for the pause and know that what is yours will come to you.

Decide to see your life as a movie and write your dreams into your script. Be honest with yourself. What do you really, really want? Pursue the most exciting and/or scary options.

Feel the fear and, even if you are you terrified of success or happiness, do it anyway. That’s the time when you will feel really ALIVE!

Take one action every day towards that bigger picture. No matter how small the deed, you are still moving forward.

And you are no longer stuck.

12/21/2014

Our Deepest Fear

by Marianne Williamson

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.

Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking
so that other people won't feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do.

It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously
give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear,
our presence automatically liberates others.
 

12/14/2014

You have to do the hard things

You have to do the hard things. The things that no one else is doing. The things that scare you. The things that make you wonder how much longer you can hold on.

Those are the things that define you. Those are the things that make the difference between living a life of mediocrity or outrageous success.

The hard things are the easiest things to avoid. To excuse away. To pretend like they don’t apply to you.

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·        You have to make the call you’re afraid to make.

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·        You have to get up earlier than you want to get up.

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·        You have to give more than you get in return right away.

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·        You have to care more about others than they care about you.

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·        You have to fight when you are already injured, bloody, and sore.

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·        You have to feel unsure and insecure when playing it safe seems smarter.

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·        You have to lead when no one else is following you yet.

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·        You have to invest in yourself even though no one else is.

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·        You have to look like a fool while you’re looking for answers you don’t have.

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·        You have to grind out the details when it’s easier to shrug them off.

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·        You have to deliver results when making excuses is an option.

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·        You have to search for your own explanations even when you’re told to accept the “facts.”

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·        You have to make mistakes and look like an idiot.

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·        You have to try and fail and try again.

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·        You have to run faster even though you’re out of breath.

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·        You have to be kind to people who have been cruel to you.

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·        You have to meet deadlines that are unreasonable and deliver results that are unparalleled.

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·        You have to be accountable for your actions even when things go wrong.

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·        You have to keep moving towards where you want to be no matter what’s in front of you.

The simple truth about how ordinary people accomplish outrageous feats of success is that they do the hard things that smarter, wealthier, more qualified people don’t have the courage — or desperation — to do.

Do the hard things. You might be surprised at how amazing you really are.

Source URL: http://danwaldschmidt.com/2014/01/attitude/hard-things#ixzz3Lz5Np1Xn

12/7/2014

39 Key Questions You Must Answer to Discover Your Life Purpose

By Ruben Gonzalez

Benjamin Franklin said, "Most men die at age 25 but are not buried until they are 70." What he meant was, most people give up on their dreams before they are 30 years old, and spend the rest of their lives in "survival mode", living day to day, just trying to get through the day rather than living a life filled with passion, in the pursuit of their dreams.

I'm going to share a sad fact with you. When I speak at an Elementary School and ask my audience, "Do you have dreams?" almost every hand goes up. When I ask the same question at a Middle School, only half of the hands go up. When I ask High School and College students if they have dreams, only a few hands go up. And when I speak to adults at conventions, or corporate events, I'm surprised if anybody raises their hand. In fact, I don't even ask the adults anymore because it just embarrasses them.

Life is tough. There's no doubt about it. And unless you are crystal-clear about where you want to go, crystal-clear about your life purpose, mission, calling, or destiny, and unless you believe it is possible for you to make your dream a reality, you will not act on it and you will revert to "survival mode". Believe me, "survival mode" is not a good place to be.

The whole secret to a successful life is to find out what it is your destiny to do, and then do it.

I know. I've been there. Ever since the third grade, I dreamed of being an Olympic athlete. But I didn't believe in myself so I never committed to acting on my dream. Eventually I put my Olympic dream up on the shelf. For years, I felt lost. I felt like a nobody. I felt I was not making a difference. I did not like myself. Many years later, while in College, something happened that inspired me to go for it.

When I saw tiny Scott Hamilton win the Gold Medal at the 1984 Sarajevo Olympics, I said to myself, "If that little guy can do it, I can do it too! I WILL be in the next Olympics!" And I made a commitment to do whatever it took to make my dream a reality. All of a sudden, my life had purpose, meaning, and passion! Four years later I was marching in the Opening Ceremonies of the 1988 Calgary Winter Olympics.

We all have a dream in our hearts, and we have all the gifts, talents, and resources we need to make our dreams a reality. But it's up to us to believe in ourselves and it is up to us to do the work. Many times, you will not discover your true gifts until you put yourself through the struggle of chasing your dream. The person you become through the struggle is your gift back to you.

You were created to make your dream come true. It is your life purpose. It is you calling. It's your mission. Your dream will draw on your talents, it will appeal to your highest ideals, and will give you unlimited energy. Having a vision of where you want to be satisfies several universal drives within each of us. Having a dream connects with the spirit that dwells in our heart; it gives us an outlet for our unique gifts and talents, and makes us feel that our lives matter. It makes us feel that we are making a difference.

A dream does several things. It gives you a future focus. Instead of being worried about the frustrations of the present, a dream gets you thinking about the possibilities of the future. A dream gives you energy. Have you ever been so engrossed in a book or in a project that hours seemed like minutes? That's what it feels like when you are passionately chasing your dream. Finally, a dream keeps you from wasting your life. Dreams keep you from wasting your talents, your abilities, and your creativity. They keep you from living a life filled with regret. That terrible "What might have been?" feeling.

You will experience success in life to the extent that you are clear about and commit to achieving your life purpose.

How do you find your purpose? It all comes down to spending some quality time getting to know yourself through some very specific questions. I would suggest going out by yourself for a couple of days to a quiet place, maybe a cabin in the woods, out by a lake, a place where you will not be interrupted and really thinking about it. It might be a good idea to take a notebook to write your thoughts.

Before I give you the questions, I'd like you to think about some people you deeply admire. What is it about them that you admire? Specifically what qualities do you admire in them? I'd be willing to bet that anyone you admire, is someone who is dedicating their life to their unique calling. If you are having trouble thinking of people, just think about people like Michael Jordan, Mother Theresa, Michael Dell, Bill Gates, Sam Walton, Norman Schwarzkopf, and the NASA Astronauts.

What do they have in common? They love what they do. They would do it for free. They are good at what they do. Doing what they do is extremely important to them. They have a sense of destiny, a sense that they are doing what they were born to do.

Well you know what? The experiences you have had up to this point in your life have prepared you for your life purpose. You have unique talents, abilities, interests, and values that only you can bring to greatness. There is a destiny that only you can fulfill. But first you need to find out what you would love to do. What you would be willing to do for free. What you are good at doing. What is extremely important to you. What you were born to do.

So here are the questions. Don't just glance at them. Invest some time in them. Remember, what you learn from them could change your life - and the world! You might want to write each of these questions on a separate index card and spend at least 15 minutes on each one. Fifteen minutes writing your unique answer in your life mission notebook.

Note: Some of these questions are very similar. They are just worded differently. This is done intentionally. I want to stimulate different parts of your brain in order to get closer to your true answer.

What are my greatest talents?

What do others say I am good at? (You want to weigh this heavily because many times our gifts come so naturally to us, that we underestimate them. Your true gifts will be more apparent to others.)

What have my unique life experiences prepared me to do?

What do I love to do so much that I would do it for free? Why? (The why is very important. It will give you clues to your driving force.)

What activities give me satisfaction? Why?

What excites me about life? Why?

What is my secret ambition? Why?

What are my hobbies?

What is my greatest character strength?

What is my greatest passion?

What would I be willing to die for? Why?

What will I feel like when I make it happen?

What will the regret feel like if I don't make it happen?

What am I good at?

What do I get complimented on?

Where have I excelled in the past?

Where have I been successful?

What is important to me?

What do you naturally do well?

What things do you view as your greatest successes? Why?

Is there a cause about which you feel passionate?

What is it about that cause that attracts you to it?

What are the most important lessons you have learned through your experiences about life?

What do you daydream about doing? Why?

What things do you want to be remembered for at the end of your life? Why?

What things will your life be incomplete without? Why?

If you had a year left to live, what would you do differently? Why?

What would you do if you knew you could not fail? Why?

What would you do with your time if you were wealthy? Why?

What do you stand for?

What were you born to do?

What is your unique mission in life?

What do you want you to do?

What are your unique opportunities?

Where can you make a difference?

How do you want to be remembered? Why?

What will outlast you?

What will continue after you are gone?

What legacy do you want to leave behind? Why?

You might want to go through this exercise on an ongoing basis (maybe a couple of questions every day) until you become crystal-clear about your purpose in life.

Remember, you can't make your dream come true if you don't even know what it is. If you can't see it, you can't get it. Once you see it, dedicate your life to making it a reality. Give yourself to your vision. You are worthy of it. It's why you're here. It's how you will make a difference in the world. It's how you'll be remembered. It's your legacy.

So? Are you going to do this or not?

If you do, you are making a BIG mistake!

DO THIS EXERCISE! If you don't, you have no one but yourself to blame for not realizing your dreams!

I don't care who you are. I don't care if you are a CEO or the President of the United States ! I don't care if last week you climbed Mt. Everest . You need to do this. You need to find out what your next dream will be! 

Otherwise you are sentencing yourself to a life of mediocrity.

Copyright © 2009 Ruben Gonzalez

11/30/2014

Carrot, Egg and Coffee

A carrot, an egg and a cup of coffee... You will never look at a cup of coffee the same way again…

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil, without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl.  She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.

Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me what you see."

"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied.

Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft.

The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg.

Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as he tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, "What does it mean, mother?"

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity...boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however.

After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water. "Which are you?" she asked her daughter. "When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond?

Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?"

Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you.

When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.

The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can't go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so at the end, you're the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying. You might want to send this message to those people who mean something to you (I JUST DID); to those who have touched your life in one way or another; to those who make you smile when you really need it; to those who make you see the brighter side of things when you are really down; to those whose friendships you appreciate; to those who are so meaningful in your life.

If you don't send it, you will just miss out on the opportunity to brighten someone's day with this message!

It's easier to build a child than repair an adult. This is so true - may we all be COFFEE.

11/23/2014

The Price of Success

By Ruben Gonzalez

Average people expect their dreams and goals to fall on their lap. They are not willing to inconvenience themselves for their dreams. They refuse to do anything outside their comfort zone to reach their dreams. They don't stand for anything, they don't commit to anything and they just drift through life. That's why they are average. Because they are not willing to do what successful people are willing to do. Consequently, they don't live life, they merely exist. They just take up space.

In order to succeed in life, you have to be willing to inconvenience yourself in a big way. You have to be willing to commit to yourself and to your dream. You have to be willing to face your fears and do some things that are very uncomfortable. You have to be willing to do the things average people are not willing to do. You see, success is not about aptitude. It's about attitude. It's about having the attitude that you are willing to do whatever it takes to get the job done.

General William Westmoreland was once reviewing a platoon of paratroopers in Vietnam . As he went down the line, he asked each of them a question: "How do you like jumping, son?" "Love it, sir!" was the first answer. "How do you like jumping?" he asked the next. "The greatest experience in my life, sir!" exclaimed the paratrooper. "How do you like jumping?" he asked the third. "I hate it, sir," he replied. "Then why do you do it?" asked Westmoreland. "Because I want to be around guys who love to jump."

Yeah! That guy had the right attitude!

One day, I was talking with Rudy Ruettiger, the inspiration behind the movie, "Rudy," and I mentioned that I didn't like the luge. I told Rudy that I competed in the luge because it was my vehicle to the Olympics. Rudy got a kick out of that. Then, he told me; "I never liked football. My dream was to be part of the Notre Dame Tradition and I saw football as a way to do that!"

Sometimes you have to do things you don't like to do in order to get where you want to go. The paratrooper was willing to jump out of airplanes so he could hang around people who loved to jump. I was willing to hurl myself down the ice in order to compete in the Olympics. Rudy was willing to get beat up in the football field in order to get to be a part of the Notre Dame tradition.

How about you? Is there something that's been holding you back from your dream? Something that's been keeping you from taking action? Don't let anything keep you from your dream. I guarantee you that the feeling you experience once you realize your dreams and aspirations will make the price you paid feel worthwhile.

The price of success is big but the price of regret that comes from not pursuing your dream is a hundred times bigger.

Make a decision that you will do whatever it takes to realize your goals and dreams and make your life an adventure.

Copyright © 2008 Ruben Gonzalez

11/16/2014

The Ability to Respectfully Disagree

By Michael Angier

A critical key to success in your career and in your life overall is developing and maintaining good relationships. Here is a great article by Michael Angier who has a support network helping people and businesses grow and prosper.

Our relationships with friends, coworkers, suppliers, spouses, clients, bosses, siblings, teachers, employees, competitors and parents affect everything we do. Our success is highly dependent upon these relationships.

And it's not enough to be likable. Being agreeable and good natured are admirable traits. But in order to effect real change—in order to be a leader—one must often go against the norm. To make a difference, we often have to disagree with people and take different positions. Just going along with everyone will not work.

People are often surprised at how diverse my friends and business associates are. I have good relationships with people who are liberal and conservative, religious and secular. I seem to be able to get along with people from different cultures, with dissimilar philosophies and even divergent values.

I credit this to usually being tolerant and respectful. I like people and I learn something from almost everyone. I don't need to be right—even though I like to be. I also don't believe there is only one way, one path, one right answer.

The trick is to be able to disagree without being disagreeable. We want to respect others and have others respect us.

I think it starts with respecting others enough to listen to their points of view —and to do this regardless of whether or not we agree with them. The more you understand, the more you validate their viewpoint, the more likely it is they'll respond in kind, and you'll have a better relationship.

There's real truth in the old adage, "people don't care how much you know until they know how much we care." And I love Stephen Covey's profound maxim, "seek first to understand."

We all know that a response to someone's viewpoint like, "That's stupid!" is near the worst end of the spectrum. Here are a few on the other side. Be aware: they require you to be sincere and won't work unless you are.

"That's an interesting viewpoint. You must have a good reason for thinking that way. Do you mind telling me what it is?"

"I think I understand what you're saying, and could you tell me more about how you arrived at your opinion?"

"That's interesting. And I see it somewhat differently. May I explain?"

"I see what you're saying. I have another way of looking at it . . ."

There are many more. The point is to respond with respect, courtesy and honesty.

Action Point

Commit to improving your ability to talk about controversial things in a responsible, respectful and tolerant fashion. You'll get better with practice, but you won't practice and experiment unless you're committed to doing it well.

Then do it. Respond, don't react. Be considerate without being abrasive. Speak your truth with compassion.

After discussions, think about how you might have responded better—how you could have listened better, demonstrated more respect and been more tolerant. Don't make yourself wrong for it; just notice what you do, then resolve to do it better next time.

11/9/2014

Be Yourself and Not Somebody Else

If you have skill in details, that is wonderful. If you don’t have skill in details, you have skill in something else. Skilled or unskilled, this is wonderful. You do not have to be everything to everyone, certainly not to yourself do you have to have every talent in the world. It’s okay when you have your mind on other things than what the majority might want you to uphold.

So what if you are a square peg in a round hole? So what if you see differently from everyone else in the world? Do you really want to be like everyone else? What is everyone else like anyway?

Where does your happiness lie? Does it lie in conforming to another’s picture of you? What can give fulfillment to your heart, your beautiful heart? Your heart is in your hands, and not in someone else’s. How much awareness of what is in your heart do you allow yourself?

To be sure, you don’t want to be only self-centered, yet you do have a self that deserves happiness.

Once upon a time, you may not have had all the choices that are open to you now. You live in this time and place in the world, and not in another time and place. While there is nothing new under the sun, nevertheless, you are new under this sun. If you live in Alaska or in a desert region, there are different requirements for you. Be true to yourself. Be true to the sky above you that goes beyond time and place. Every day you are new.

Great possibilities are open to you. Climb over the walls and find yourself. I designed you as you. You did not come to this world as somebody else. Let someone else live in his truth, and you live in yours. I proclaim you you. On Earth, you partake in individuality. You don’t have to be different from everyone else, yet you also don’t have to seemingly be like everyone else. What for? Especially when you don’t get the hang of it, especially if you fly under false colors.

In the course of life, everyone has his own path. No two paths are exactly the same.

Not everyone has to get on to the same bandwagon. One bandwagon does not have to be perceived as better than another, though, of course, many think so. You are you. The best wagon for you to get on is your own. If you like to sing, sing. If you like to dance, dance. If you like to meet with friends often, meet with friends often. If you like to be solitary often, be solitary often. You have the right to be who you are and not have to be what any other may say you should be. In the individuality of the world, you can proclaim yourself your own person. You have every right. It is your privilege, and it is your destiny.

Others may expect too much of you, and you, also, may expect too much of yourself. Yes, you adapt to your environment as it is, yet you do not adapt yourself to what everyone else’s dream of you may be. You are your own person. So be it. This doesn’t mean you are a rebel. How can you be a rebel when you are truly following your own path? Be lawful and kind and be yourself, not somebody else.

Source URL: http://heavenletters.org/be-yourself-and-not-somebody-else.html

11/2/2014

Peace now!

I wish you peace. Where does peace lie? It lies in your heart. It is within your heart that peace is found. It is from within your heart that peace is issued. Yes, peace emanates from your heart. World peace emanates from your heart. Everyone is responsible for peace. You are the maker of peace or the withdrawer of it. Engage peace. You will like it.

You are intended to be an instrument of peace.

There is no need for war AND peace. Peace will do very well. It can stand on its own. Welcome peace. Peace has no opposite. And peace has no equal.

Peace would not be your mission except the world has wandered from peace. Peace is the natural state. War is not. Friction is not. Two sticks rubbed together can make a fire. When there is Oneness, there are not two sticks. In Oneness, no fire can be made. Be in Oneness, Be in peace. Peace be with you.

I suppose your two hands could fight with each other, and one hand would be victorious. What would be gained by such a fight? And what would be lost? Where you had two good hands, now you would have one wounded.

That is what strife is, be it personal or worldwide. Two hands fight each other. Brother fights brother. Country fights itself under the name of another country. Oh, the folly committed. Oh, the folly committed often in the name of peace. Can this really be? Can it really be?

With the world at peace there would no longer be fighting. What would there be to fight about? Hearts would be free to travel as they wished, and they would travel in peace. At home or away, peace would reign. Hearts of peace would reign. How the flowers would grow and trees bear fruit. Deserts would become oases, and mountains would be easy to climb. Peace would cover the land, and there would be war no more in the heart of any man or woman. The time for this is now. Now, I say.

Source URL: http://www.heavenletters.org/peace-now-god-says.html

10/26/2014

What kind of a person am I?

What kind of a person are you? The same is true of a seamstress, carpenter, accountant, teacher, homemaker, lawyer, mechanic, or an engineer or a manager... The question is, Who and what am I? What must I do to be at peace with myself? What can I be, for that is what I must be? A lucky few of us find the answers to these questions fairly early in life, and we work to develop into the people we can be and must be. We do that by looking at our deepest desires, and ask what would bring fulfillment for us. We ask what we would enjoy doing most, what we believe we have the ability to be really good at. What is it that sometimes burns within us to be expressed or done? The answers to what we can be, what we must be, come from within, through asking ourselves these questions.

What kind of a person am I capable of being?  

10/19/2014

The place where you are

By Ralph Marston

The place where life happens is the place where you are. The place where you build success and achievement is the place where you are.

You cannot change the places where you came from, and you've not yet arrived at the places you'll be. The place where you are is the only place where you can think and act and make life happen in the way you intend.

If you spend your time wishing you were someplace else, then you lose the opportunity to get there. Instead, see the power and the possibilities of the place where you are, and tap into the real value of what you now have

If you fill the place where you are with worry, frustration, anxiety or anger, you put needless limitations on what you can do. Instead, fill this moment, this set of circumstances with joy, love, gratitude and enthusiasm for the positive possibilities.

Give the best that you can to the place where you are. For your world is determined not by what you hope to do on some distant someday, but by how you live right here and now.

This is the place where you are. Live it for all that it is.

10/12/20104

Put the Glass Down

A teacher was giving a lecture to his student on stress management. He raised glass of water and asked the audience, "How heavy do you think this glass of water is?"

The students' answers ranged from 10 oz. to a lb.

"It does not matter on the absolute weight. It depends on how long you hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it is OK. If I hold it for an hour, I will have an ache in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you will have to call an ambulance. It is the exact same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes." The teacher says.

"If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, we will not be able to carry on, the burden becoming increasingly heavier." "What you have to do is to put the glass down, rest for a while before holding it up again." We have to put down the burden periodically, so that we can be refreshed and are able to carry on. So before you return home from work tonight, put the burden of work down. Don't carry it back home. You can pick it up tomorrow.

Whatever burdens you are having now on your shoulders, let it down for a moment if you can. Pick it up again later when you have rested... Rest and relax. Life is short, enjoy it!  

10/5/2014

39 Key Questions You Must Answer to Discover Your Life Purpose

By Ruben Gonzalez

Benjamin Franklin said, "Most men die at age 25 but are not buried until they are 70." What he meant was, most people give up on their dreams before they are 30 years old, and spend the rest of their lives in "survival mode", living day to day, just trying to get through the day rather than living a life filled with passion, in the pursuit of their dreams.

I'm going to share a sad fact with you. When I speak at an Elementary School and ask my audience, "Do you have dreams?" almost every hand goes up. When I ask the same question at a Middle School, only half of the hands go up. When I ask High School and College students if they have dreams, only a few hands go up. And when I speak to adults at conventions, or corporate events, I'm surprised if anybody raises their hand. In fact, I don't even ask the adults anymore because it just embarrasses them.

Life is tough. There's no doubt about it. And unless you are crystal-clear about where you want to go, crystal-clear about your life purpose, mission, calling, or destiny, and unless you believe it is possible for you to make your dream a reality, you will not act on it and you will revert to "survival mode". Believe me, "survival mode" is not a good place to be.

The whole secret to a successful life is to find out what it is your destiny to do, and then do it.    

I know. I've been there. Ever since the third grade, I dreamed of being an Olympic athlete. But I didn't believe in myself so I never committed to acting on my dream. Eventually I put my Olympic dream up on the shelf. For years, I felt lost. I felt like a nobody. I felt I was not making a difference. I did not like myself. Many years later, while in College, something happened that inspired me to go for it.

When I saw tiny Scott Hamilton win the Gold Medal at the 1984 Sarajevo Olympics, I said to myself, "If that little guy can do it, I can do it too! I WILL be in the next Olympics!" And I made a commitment to do whatever it took to make my dream a reality. All of a sudden, my life had purpose, meaning, and passion! Four years later I was marching in the Opening Ceremonies of the 1988 Calgary Winter Olympics.

We all have a dream in our hearts, and we have all the gifts, talents, and resources we need to make our dreams a reality. But it's up to us to believe in ourselves and it is up to us to do the work. Many times, you will not discover your true gifts until you put yourself through the struggle of chasing your dream. The person you become through the struggle is your gift back to you.

You were created to make your dream come true. It is your life purpose. It is you calling. It's your mission. Your dream will draw on your talents, it will appeal to your highest ideals, and will give you unlimited energy. Having a vision of where you want to be satisfies several universal drives within each of us. Having a dream connects with the spirit that dwells in our heart; it gives us an outlet for our unique gifts and talents, and makes us feel that our lives matter. It makes us feel that we are making a difference.

A dream does several things. It gives you a future focus. Instead of being worried about the frustrations of the present, a dream gets you thinking about the possibilities of the future. A dream gives you energy. Have you ever been so engrossed in a book or in a project that hours seemed like minutes? That's what it feels like when you are passionately chasing your dream. Finally, a dream keeps you from wasting your life. Dreams keep you from wasting your talents, your abilities, and your creativity. They keep you from living a life filled with regret. That terrible "What might have been?" feeling.

You will experience success in life to the extent that you are clear about and commit to achieving your life purpose.

How do you find your purpose? It all comes down to spending some quality time getting to know yourself through some very specific questions. I would suggest going out by yourself for a couple of days to a quiet place, maybe a cabin in the woods, out by a lake, a place where you will not be interrupted and really thinking about it. It might be a good idea to take a notebook to write your thoughts.

Before I give you the questions, I'd like you to think about some people you deeply admire. What is it about them that you admire? Specifically what qualities do you admire in them? I'd be willing to bet that anyone you admire, is someone who is dedicating their life to their unique calling. If you are having trouble thinking of people, just think about people like Michael Jordan, Mother Theresa, Michael Dell, Bill Gates, Sam Walton, Norman Schwarzkopf, and the NASA Astronauts.

What do they have in common? They love what they do. They would do it for free. They are good at what they do. Doing what they do is extremely important to them. They have a sense of destiny, a sense that they are doing what they were born to do.

Well you know what? The experiences you have had up to this point in your life have prepared you for your life purpose. You have unique talents, abilities, interests, and values that only you can bring to greatness. There is a destiny that only you can fulfill. But first you need to find out what you would love to do. What you would be willing to do for free. What you are good at doing. What is extremely important to you. What you were born to do.

So here are the questions. Don't just glance at them. Invest some time in them. Remember, what you learn from them could change your life - and the world! You might want to write each of these questions on a separate index card and spend at least 15 minutes on each one. Fifteen minutes writing your unique answer in your life mission notebook.

Note: Some of these questions are very similar. They are just worded differently. This is done intentionally. I want to stimulate different parts of your brain in order to get closer to your true answer.

What are my greatest talents?

What do others say I am good at? (You want to weigh this heavily because many times our gifts come so naturally to us, that we underestimate them. Your true gifts will be more apparent to others.)

What have my unique life experiences prepared me to do?

What do I love to do so much that I would do it for free? Why? (The why is very important. It will give you clues to your driving force.)

What activities give me satisfaction? Why?

What excites me about life? Why?

What is my secret ambition? Why?

What are my hobbies?

What is my greatest character strength?

What is my greatest passion?

What would I be willing to die for? Why?

What will I feel like when I make it happen?

What will the regret feel like if I don't make it happen?

What am I good at?

What do I get complimented on?

Where have I excelled in the past?

Where have I been successful?

What is important to me?

What do you naturally do well?

What things do you view as your greatest successes? Why?

Is there a cause about which you feel passionate?

What is it about that cause that attracts you to it?

What are the most important lessons you have learned through your experiences about life?

What do you daydream about doing? Why?

What things do you want to be remembered for at the end of your life? Why?

What things will your life be incomplete without? Why?

If you had a year left to live, what would you do differently? Why?

What would you do if you knew you could not fail? Why?

What would you do with your time if you were wealthy? Why?

What do you stand for?

What were you born to do?

What is your unique mission in life?

What do you want you to do?

What are your unique opportunities?

Where can you make a difference?

How do you want to be remembered? Why?

What will outlast you?

What will continue after you are gone?

What legacy do you want to leave behind? Why?

You might want to go through this exercise on an ongoing basis (maybe a couple of questions every day) until you become crystal-clear about your purpose in life.

Remember, you can't make your dream come true if you don't even know what it is. If you can't see it, you can't get it. Once you see it, dedicate your life to making it a reality. Give yourself to your vision. You are worthy of it. It's why you're here. It's how you will make a difference in the world. It's how you'll be remembered. It's your legacy.

So? Are you going to do this or not?

If you do, you are making a BIG mistake!

DO THIS EXERCISE! If you don't, you have no one but yourself to blame for not realizing your dreams!

I don't care who you are. I don't care if you are a CEO or the President of the United States ! I don't care if last week you climbed Mt. Everest . You need to do this. You need to find out what your next dream will be! 

Otherwise you are sentencing yourself to a life of mediocrity.

9/28/2014

Life – The Teacher
By Clyde Dennis

You’ve probably heard the phrase "repetition is the mother of learning" well apparently it’s also the mother of teaching. Often it seems, Life – The Teacher uses the tool of repetition to imprint into our brains the lessons it’s needing to impart to us. At least this has been our experience.

It has become clear to me that life gives the same tests over, and over and over again until we demonstrate that we’ve learned the lesson by passing the test. This teacher seems more than happy to show us again and again why it may be a bad idea to take a particular action, or choose one direction over another. The good news here is that it works both ways. Like any good teacher choose properly and life smiles. Choose improperly and life corrects.

Sometimes I wish and think that it would be simpler and easier if the teacher would just make all of my decisions for me and let me know exactly what I’m supposed to do, but of course that’s not the way it works. In this teacher role life is just an administrator, not an advisor or counselor. Life is there to administer and grade the tests.

Once you pass the test however, Life records your grade and moves on to the next lesson. But don’t completely discard the lesson you’ve just learned as over because it’s not. You may not see or have to deal with this particular thing again for quite some time but you can bet at some point down the road you will see it again. The lessons and tests we’ve passed usually return in the form of pop quiz’s. Out of the blue one day an opportunity to display this lesson learned will pop up and you’ll have to conquer it all over again. If you fail or don’t score high enough on this little pop quiz you’ll have to deal with it more and more often until you pass the test again. Like starting over with it. The trick is to score high marks on the lessons because the higher the score the less often life throws it at you. Show a mastery of it, and it is presented as a test with much less frequency.

So the question: What are you tired of having to deal with day in and day out? What lesson do you feel life is beating you up with?

Want to get rid of it? Show life (and yourself) that you get it. Do whatever you need to do to display that you’ve mastered this particular lesson. Life will reciprocate by giving you a break from it. But remember, Life is smart. You can’t trick it. The higher degree to which you display a mastery of the lesson, the less frequently life will re-present it to you.

Anyway, that’s my take. What’s yours?

Live some. Love some. Learn some. Everyday.  

9/21/2014

Going from Wishful Thinking to Commitment
(From Ruben's book "Becoming Unstoppable.")

Are you fascinated about your dream? Fascination is extremely powerful. When a person becomes totally fascinated with the possibility of achieving something, they become unstoppable.

When I became fascinated with the idea of becoming an Olympian, I was able to hold on to that vision even though it would involve many years of training. People tell me I must have a lot of willpower. I don't think I have any more than most people. What I had was an enormous fascination with the thought of becoming an Olympian and I had the desire to make it happen. It was the fascination with the end result that kept me going.

Dreams are very fragile things. Whenever you have a dream, you must nurture it and protect it so it will gain strength and so you will have time to develop the belief that it is possible.

If you don't nurture your dream, it will simply remain a fantasy. Fantasies do not come true because when your dream is a fantasy, you are operating out of wishful thinking. Wishful thinking is when you are not doing anything and hoping your dream will somehow fall on your lap.

Sooner or later you have to become committed to your dream and start taking action. Commitment comes when you stop listening to your fears and start listening to your inner voice. That voice that urges you to pursue your dream.

When you stop taking council from your fears and start taking council from your heart, your dream will gain strength and you will become a person on a mission. a person that will not be satisfied until they reach their dream. Success is a decision. It's an inside job. You just have to believe.

You must hold on to your dream and know it like you know your name. Can you imagine someone trying to convince you that your name was not really your name? You'd look at them like they were crazy. You'd think to yourself, "This person has no clue!"

Well that's exactly how you need to react when someone questions your capacity to achieve your dream. Whenever someone laughs at your dream, you've just run into someone who does not believe as much as you do. Stop associating with anyone like that. Don't waste your time trying to convince them. You'll be wasting precious time and energy you could be using to reach your dream. Just smile, run, and think, "You watch me, Buster!"

If someone asks you what makes you think you can achieve that, simply say, "I just know because I know." Don't let others let you settle for anything less than your dreams. You have a champion inside that is urging you to pursue your dream. Listen to your heart and go for it! Accept the challenge so you can experience the exhilaration of victory.

Put it into action:

Protect your dream and nurture your dream. Don't waste your time with people who don't believe in you. Associate only with people who believe and encourage you.

Copyright © 2008 Ruben Gonzalez

9/14/2014

Dream Big

If there were ever a time to dare,

to make a difference,

to embark on something worth doing,

it is now.

Not for any grand cause, necessarily-

but for something that tugs at your heart,

something that's your aspiration,

something that's your dream.

You owe it to yourself

to make your days here count.

Have fun.

Dig Deep.

Stretch.

Dream big.

Know, though, that things worth doing

seldom come easy.

There will be good days.

There will be times when you want to turn around,

pack it up,

and call it quits.

those times tell you

that you are pushing yourself,

that you are not afraid to learn by trying.

Persist.

Because with an idea,

determination,

and the right tools,

you can do great things.

Let your instincts,

your intellect,

and your heart

guide you.

Trust.

Believe in the incredible power of the human mind.

Of doing something that makes a difference.

Of working hard.

Of laughing and hoping.

Of lazy afternoons.

Of lasting friends.

Of all the things that will cross your path this year.

The start of something new

brings the hope of something great.

Anything is possible.

There is only one you.

And you will pass this way only once.

Do it right.

--- Macintosh ad from 1991

9/1/2014

Eight Gifts That Don't Cost A Cent

Feeling good about ourselves is one of the most important things for success and happiness. It is a well known fact that none of us can feel good and be happy and successful unless we pay attention to the others around us.

For many years people thought that we need High IQ to be successful in school and in our career. However, if we don't develop our EQ (Emotional Intelligence) to communicate with the others, our success will never be complete. 

Anything we put in the lives of the other people will come back to us as more self confidence, more happiness, better friendships, faster promotions, more customers in the business field. The key is developing better people skills. We can't change our IQ, but we can develop a higher EQ. All of us can do this, if we pay attention to people around us. Our relationships make our lives and it is up to us how we build them. It is the Universal Law “The more we give the more we receive.”  

This simple checklist can help measure how you are nurturing your relationships to build a whole and happy life.  

The Gift of Listening

But you must really listen. Don't interrupt, don't daydream, don't plan your response. Just Listen.

The Gift of Affection

Be generous with appropriate hugs, kisses, pats on the back and handholds. Let these small actions demonstrate the love you have for family and friends.

The Gift of Laughter

Clip cartoons. Share articles and funny stories. Your gift will say, "I love to laugh with you."

The Gift of Solitude

There are times when we want nothing better than to be left alone. Be sensitive to those times and give the gift of solitude to others.

The Gift of a Favor

Every day, go out of your way to do something kind.

The Gift of a Written Note

It can be a simple "Thanks for the help" note or a full sonnet. A brief, handwritten note may be remembered for a lifetime.

The Gift of a Compliment

A simple and sincere, "You look great in red," "You did a super job," or "That was a wonderful meal" can make someone's day.

The Gift of a Cheerful Disposition

The easiest way to feel good is to extend a kind word to someone.  

8/31/2014

Choices

 

A moment ago belongs to the past.

Now belongs to us.

We live in the present.

Each moment lived in suspension

Is a moment lost, never to return.

 

Each moment is full of choices.

There is no quota to be used up.

Shall we choose to merely listen or to really hear,

to look upon or truly see,

to remain safely insulated

or touch our inner core?

 

The choice of participation or

withdrawal, creation or destruction is ours.

In choosing and doing our choice

we affirm life.

 

We have the capacity for continual

renewal of our lives.

Will we free ourselves from the

conflicts and fears which estrange?

 

We reach within ourselves, we reach out

affirming choice, seeking unity, asserting

a plea for wholeness.

 

8/24/2014

The Most Successful People in the World do This...

By Ruben Gonzalez

The most successful people in the world are extremely goal oriented. They know exactly what they want and they are always focused on achieving it.

Goals keep you focused. They keep you from drifting through life with no purpose. It does not matter where you came from. What matters is where you're going. And you determine where you're going by what you think about all the time.

The main difference between successful people and unsuccessful people is how they think. Successful people think about what they want and how to get it. Unsuccessful people think and talk about what they don't want. Setting goals helps you keep thinking about where you want to go.

When you have clear goals you are pursuing every day, you'll be more confident and more motivated.

Your goals need to be clear, written, and very specific. They also need to be measurable. You have to know when you have achieved them.

A famous Harvard study highlights the impact goal setting will has on people's lives:

The 1979 MBA Harvard graduating class was asked whether they had clear goals for their future and whether they had written their goals down.

84% had no goals at all. 13% had unwritten goals. And only 3% had clear, written goals.

Ten years later, in 1989, the Harvard MBA graduates were interviewed again. The 13% who had goals but had not written them were making twice as much as the 84% who had no goals at all. The 3% of graduates who had clear, written goals were earning TEN TIMES as much as the other 97% of graduates combined!

It's not voodoo or magic. It's really very simple.

If you set goals and write them down every day, you're focused on your objective, and are much more likely to do things that will help you reach your goal. If you don't write down your goals - or worse, if you don't even have goals, you get sidetracked and waste precious time. You only live once, you might as well go for the gold.

People who set goals live more meaningful and purposeful lives. They are more in control of their destiny and therefore happier. People are happier when they are doing something that is moving them towards something they want. Goal setting is so powerful that I'll bet you get happy just thinking about achieving your goals.

What do you want to achieve?
What do you have a burning desire for?

Once you know exactly what you want and are willing to pay the price to achieve it, success will only be a matter of time.

Start making a habit of writing your goals down every day. It only takes a couple of minutes. Make it a rule that you can't check you morning emails before you've written your goals down. I double-dog dare you to do this! And I guarantee you that if you do it for a year, your life will change dramatically!

Start talking about your goals to other people. See if you can get THEM writing their goals. It's a great way to impact other people's lives. And remember to focus on WHY you have those goals. The WHY is the driving force.

Once you start writing your goals, talking about your goals, and thinking about your goals, you will start turning into a success seeking guided missile that won't miss.

What do you want to be?
What do you want to do?
What do you want to have?

What is something you can do in the next 15 minutes that will help you get closer to your goals? DO IT...NOW!

Copyright © 2008 Ruben Gonzalez

8/17/2014

Motivation is a State of Mind: 5 Tips on Making It Work

We have all started down the path to a goal at one time or another with the best of intentions. We were highly motivated and virtually shot out of the gate, intent on not only meeting, but exceeding, our goals. At some point, we lost our fire. That motivation that we had at the beginning was simply lost. But where did it go? How is it that we can begin a new project with motivation to spare, only to find it peter out before we’re finished?

The key to staying motivated is to understand that motivation is a state of mind. Though we may have external motivators, ultimately, our motivation lies within. Once you understand that simple fact, you’ll be able to not only get motivated but stay motivated well through the completion of your project or the realization of your goal. Here are five tips to staying motivated.

Motivation Tip #1: One Goal, Not Many

One of the biggest hurdles to maintaining your motivation is biting off more than you can chew. If you discover that your motivation is lagging, look to what you are trying to accomplish and decide if it’s simply too much. If you are getting overwhelmed with all of the things you are trying to accomplish, sit down and prioritize your goals.

Trying to accomplish too many things at once will quickly sap your energy. Concentrate your focus on one goal, moving on to the next when the first is accomplished. For example, if you want to lose 50 pounds, break your weight loss goals into smaller chunks. Make it your first goal to lose ten pounds and then move on to the next ten. Doing so will help you maintain your energy and motivation.

Motivation Tip #2: Find Your Inspiration

How will you stay motivated to meet your goals? Look for varied sources of inspiration! If you want to start your own business, read blogs, articles and books written by successful entrepreneurs. If you want to lose weight, look for others who have achieved their weight loss goals. Don’t expect inspiration to come knocking on your door; get out there and look for it! Finding other people who have not only met their goals, but surpassed them, can be a tremendous source of inspiration and motivation.

Motivation Tip #3: Keep a Journal

Once you’ve decided on what you want to accomplish, keep a journal to track the feelings you experience along the journey. Be sure to keep track of the negatives as well as the positives. Making note of your moods and feelings along the way can help you establish a pattern and help you discover what is sapping your motivation. When you’re feeling particularly underwhelmed, read over your journal and make note of your progress. Reading your journal is a simple activity that can reignite the fire you felt when you started on your journey.

Motivation Tip #4: Surround Yourself with Positive

Believe it or not, one of the quickest ways to lose your motivation is by surrounding yourself with negative people. Whether it’s in real life or on social networking sites, remove the people around you who aren’t 100 percent supportive of your goals. There will always be those people in your life who don’t want to see you succeed, whether they are conscious of that fact or not. You don’t have to ditch these people forever, but you do need to rid yourself of them while you are trying to maintain motivation to realize your dreams.

Motivation Tip #5: Reward Yourself

No matter if it’s our pets, our kids or our spouses, when the beings in our life do something great, we reward them. Do the same for yourself! When you reach milestones along the way to your ultimate goal, do something nice for yourself. Whether you buy yourself a new outfit, give yourself a day at the spa or even spend a day fishing on the lake, do something to reward yourself. Treating yourself for a job well done is a great way to stay motivated enough to meet your goal.

Many people find it helpful to write down the rewards they will give themselves for each milestone. Writing down the ways in which you will reward yourself can keep you motivated when times get tough. If you feel yourself losing motivation, open your journal and see what you’ve promised yourself for the next milestone that you reach. If you’ve made your rewards meaningful, they’ll be enough to get you over any hurdles that you find in your path.

It’s not enough to be motivated; you’ve got to stay motivated! By following these five tips, you can find the motivation that you need to see your goals and dreams to fruition. Set a goal, surround yourself with positive people, find inspiration, keep a journal and reward yourself! You’ll soon find that you’re ready to move on to goal number two!

8/10/2014

Dream, Struggle, Victory

By Ruben Gonzalez

Back when I was in grade school, my dad encouraged me to study the lives of successful people. He said, "Success leaves clues. Read biographies and you'll figure out what works in life."

I've been a student of success ever since. I've read countless biographies and I've found them all to be very similar. They are all the story of someone that had a dream, faced a struggle, and finally had a victory. Dream, struggle, victory. Dream, struggle, victory and then someone decided to a book about them.

We all have dreams. What made those people different is they had the guts to take action. The dream was a call to action - an inner longing to strike out on an adventure. They chose to heed the call and take the journey.

Choosing to take the journey takes courage. And staying the course to victory takes courage and perseverance. That's why we admire people who go for it. Because they have the heart of a champion and the adventurous spirit of winners.

Something life-changing happens when you decide to take the journey. If you refuse to quit, you will inevitably find you have hidden resources and abilities within you. You find out what you're made of.

You ALWAYS win by taking the journey. The journey transforms you. Who you become is the true purpose of the journey.

Face your fear. Take the journey. Heed the call. Bite off more than you think you can chew. Do it now! You'll never be the same.

Copyright © 2008 Ruben Gonzalez

8/3/2014

3 Powerful Phrases

Let's face it.

We all want a little credit, even just the tiniest bit of recognition for a new haircut, a fetching sartorial ensemble, or a job well done. But when compliments are lacking, or words of encouragement nonexistent, then positive thinking phrases are the next best thing.

Use positive thinking phrases like the ones below and give yourself a friendly pat on the back.

Positive thinking phrases, or positive affirmations, are like mantras you repeat over and over to yourself. Hopefully, by some mystifying subliminal process, the power of these words will be able to condition you to positively influence your way of thinking and as a result, your way of living.

Here are some examples:

Phrase #1: Hey, Gorgeous! (Hey, Handsome!)

Admit it.

Getting complimented for your looks is a wondrous tonic for the ego. So get out of bed, face the mirror and give your ego a boost. Nothing beats a greeting like that first thing in the morning to get you revved up for the stress of the day ahead.

Don't worry about sounding a bit vain or conceited, as long as you do it in private and out of anyone's earshot. And when you feel good inside, it'll reflect on your outer person, making you even more attractive. It won't be long before others will notice and compliment you as well.

Phrase #2: Yes, I can!

Another variant of this is, "Ain't nothin' to it but to do it," as mentioned in the show, Hey Arnold, on Nickelodeon.

In order to accomplish something, you must first believe in your heart that you are fully capable of success.

You'll find that it's usually the hardest part of any endeavor-mustering enough courage. Without this belief in yourself, you can get easily discouraged and prone to quitting.

Have faith.

Remember, the only thing that can stop you is yourself.

Phrase #3: Here I am, World, do your worst!

It may sound like you're inviting bad luck and catastrophe, but what this really means is that you are welcoming life's challenges with open arms and are willing to bravely take them on.

Like a proud sentinel in a storm, you stand firm against anything flung at you. And no matter how muddied and besieged you emerge from the battle, you emerge nonetheless, ever ready to fight and live another day.

Plus, it's a really cool motto, don't you think?

Try these positive thinking phrases on for size and get yourself in the mood for life.

Keep your day bright!

7/27/2014

Mandela’s 8 Lessons of Leadership

By Richard Stengel

Mandela, the world’s greatest moral leader reflects on a lifetime of serviceand what the rest of us can learn from it. Click the link below to read the whole story. We promise it will be quite a journey!

No. 1 - Courage is not the absence of fear — it's inspiring others to move beyond it

No. 2 - Lead from the front — but don't leave your base behind

No. 3 - Lead from the back — and let others believe they are in front

No. 4 - Know your enemy — and learn about his favorite sport

No. 5 - Keep your friends close — and your rivals even closer

No. 6 - Appearances matter — and remember to smile

No. 7 - Nothing is black or white

No. 8 - Quitting is leading too

http://www.time.com/time/world/article/0,8599,1821467,00.html

7/20/2014

The Importance of Integrity

By Joe Love

The single most important quality you can ever develop that will enhance every part of your life, is the value of integrity. Integrity is the core quality of a successful and happy life. Having integrity means being totally honest and truthful in every part of your life. By making the commitment to become a totally honest person, you will be doing more to ensure your success and happiness in life than anything else you can ever do.

Integrity is a value, like persistence, courage, and intelligence. It is your choice of values and resolution to live by those values that form your character and personality. And it is integrity that enhances all your other values. The quality of person you are is determined by how well you live up to the values that are most important to you. Integrity is the quality that locks in your values and causes you to live consistent with them.

Integrity is the foundation of character. A person who has integrity also has an unblemished character in every area of his or her life. One of the most important activities you can engage in, is developing your character. And one of the best ways to develop your character is by consistently doing the same things that a thoroughly honest person would do in every area of his or her life.

To be totally honest with others, you first have to be totally honest with yourself. You have to be true to yourself. You have to be true to the very best that is in you. Only a person who is consistently living a life with the highest values and virtues is a person truly living a life of integrity. If you are always honest and true to yourself you cannot be false to anyone else.

The mark of people who have high integrity is, they always do the highest quality of work in everything they do. They are the people who are always totally honest with themselves in everything they do, and strive to excellent work on every occasion. People with high integrity realize that everything they do is a statement about who they are as a person.

The Universal Law of Attraction says that you inevitably attract into your life the people and circumstances that are in harmony with your dominant thoughts and values. This means that everything in your life you have attracted, because of the person you are. If there is anything in your life, your relationships, or your work that you are not happy with, you need to begin changing the person you are, so that you stop attracting those people and situations into your life.

Your integrity is manifested in your willingness to adhere to the values that are most important to your. It's easy to make promises but often very hard to keep them. But every time you keep a promise that you've made, it is an act of integrity, which in turn strengthens your character. As you act with integrity in everything you do, you will find that every part of your life will improve. You will begin to attract the best people and situations into your life. You will become an outstanding person as well as a success in everything you do.  

7/13/2014

How to Conquer Fear

When it comes to personal development, dealing with FEAR is one of the most daunting tasks we take on.

This following article has two purposes: 1) to examine three excellent (and simple) realizations regarding the nature of fear; 2) to provide four activities to start conquering it.

REALIZATION ONE: Some fears are healthy, while others are unhealthy

When we are afraid of something that cannot actually harm us – like a spider - or something we can do nothing to avoid - such as old age - then our fear is unhealthy, for it serves only to make us unhappy and paralyze us. On the other hand, when someone gives up smoking because they are afraid of developing lung cancer, this is a healthy fear because the danger is real and there are constructive steps they can take to avoid it.

REALIZATION TWO: Healthy fears can be a very GOOD Thing

We need the healthy fear that arises from taking stock of our present situation so that we can resolve to do something about it. For example, there is no point in a smoker being scared of dying of lung cancer unless there is something that he or she can do to prevent it, i.e. stop smoking. If a smoker has a sufficient fear of dying of lung cancer, he or she will take steps to kick the habit. Healthy fears are the substance by which personal growth is made.

REALIZATION THREE: The Key is letting go of unhealthy fears

The critical element for dealing with fear boils down to LETTING GO of the unhealthy types; the ones where you begin to see there is NO action you can take to resolve a circumstance. Once you learn to really let go of unhealthy fears, your attention is able to focus 100% on the healthy versions and construct tangible ways to make your life happier and more fulfilling.

Here are 4 activities you can implement to start separating the healthy fears from the unhealthy ones in your life:

Make a List

Make a detailed list of all the fears in your life. Do not do this in one sitting, but take a few days to write a comprehensive list of everything you are scared. Once you feel the list is complete, separate the contents into two categories: Unhealthy Fears and Healthy Fears. Make a commitment to disregard your unhealthy fears and only focus on the healthy versions for a certain time frame (say, a week). This can be an extremely powerful and enlightening exercise. As an added bonus, make a few goals for improving the situations in your healthy fear column (remember, these are the ones you can do something about)!

Skydive

Putting yourself in a completely helpless situation (being forced to jump from a perfectly good airplane is helpless, I assure you) is a wonderful way to teach yourself to let go of unhealthy fears. Why? Because once you commit to undergoing an activity like sky diving, it becomes clear the outcome is out of your hands. The only thing to do is let it happen, and release the inevitable fears that will surface. Furthermore, landing and telling everyone about it will give you a sense of accomplishment for being able to let go of an unhealthy fear. Of course, skydiving is not for everyone, and can be substituted with any physical activity that pushes the limits of YOUR fear threshold. Just make sure you complete it, no matter what it takes!

Meditate

This recommendation is the pure opposite of the previous one, as meditation is the practice of going within and focusing the mind 100% in one area. Unhealthy fears reside deep within you and meditation is a terrific way to start becoming aware of them. For beginners, meditation itself can stimulate feelings of fear and frustration and learning to deal with them can be very beneficial to your mission of “letting go”.

Visualization

The practice of visualization is an incredibly powerful tool for dealing with fear. When you start visualizing, see yourself accomplishing your most lofty goals. Flex the muscle of your imagination to actually see and feel what it is like to live in your ideal world. Making a habit of visualization conquers fear in a very direct way: the more time you spend thinking positively, the less time you have to be fearful.

Fear is an exceptionally inhibiting force for many people, but it does not have to be! Learn how to a) separate the unhealthy versions from the healthy ones; b) let go of the unhealthy types and c) focus on actions you can take to resolve the healthy fears. This can do wonders for your well being!

7/6/2014

How to Eliminate Your Self Limiting Beliefs

The only way to improve your life is to change your beliefs about yourself and about your possibilities. Only when you believe something is possible, will you take action.

Would you like to double your income? Sure you would! Who wouldn't? But here's the rub - do you believe it's possible? If you don't, you will not do what you need to do to double it.

Think about this. Since you started your first job, haven't you already doubled, tripled, quadrupled your income? Doesn't that prove that it's possible? You've already done it. Get over it. Start believing that it's possible to do it again and go for it.

And be open to creative ways of getting it done. We're not necessarily talking about doubling what you make from your job. Although that's possible, what you need to look at is doubling your total income by developing other streams of income. If you begin to look for opportunities, you'll find many that fit your skills, talents and passions.

You just have to believe it's possible. I've doubled my income twice in the last 24 months. Yes, I'm making 4X as much today as I did two years ago. And it's not all from one source. I've got multiple streams coming in and am always open to new opportunities as long as they fit several strict criteria that I've set for myself. 

Just today, I received two phone calls with very viable opportunities. The trick now is to know what to say no to. I will only consider opportunities that fit my criteria. Because I only have so much time. You need to do the same.

I make it a point to hang around people who are making 5-10 times what I'm making. I was on the phone with two millionaires just this morning. By doing that, you know what is happening? I'm starting to believe that I can do it too. It's all about what you sincerely believe.

I guarantee you that if I didn't make it a priority to regularly associate with millionaires, I would not believe that I can become a millionaire. By the way, these mentors of mine are doing the same thing. Except they add a few zeroes. The millionaires are hanging around billionaires. No joke.

You see, it's no different than what you tell your kids. An C student can't teach you how to become a B student and a B student can't teach you how to become an A student.

If all you do is hang around average people, I can tell you exactly what will happen. Before long, you'll start believing you have average intelligence, average creativity, average talent, average capability, and average skills. And you know what? In virtually every case, those beliefs will be wrong.

When you start associating with winners, you start realizing that they are not much smarter, talented, or gifted than most people. You start realizing that they are ordinary people with extraordinary desire, belief, focus, and willingness to get the job done.

You hang around them long enough and you start seeing the possibilities. You start seeing that you've had what it takes all along. You start developing hope, belief and faith in the future. And when that starts happening, look out! You start taking action. Because when there's hope in the future, there's power in the present.

You see, all beliefs are acquired. Beliefs are learned - and unlearned. You need to start believing that you have what it takes. Because you do. Next time you have a self-limiting belief, say to yourself, "What if that was not true at all?" 

Start thinking about yourself differently. Once you do, your life will change. You will start doubling and tripling your income. 

You will learn new skills and take on new challenges. You will set bigger goals and start throwing your heart into achieving them. You will start taking charge of your life. 

I caught the Olympic dream when I was ten years old. for eleven years I didn't act on my dream because I did not believe it was possible.

When I was 21 I saw little Scott Hamilton win the Gold Medal at the 1984 Sarajevo Olympics and all of a sudden I believed. I believed that if he could do it, I could do it. I believed that I was destined to be an Olympian.

You need to believe that you are destined to be a big success in life - whatever that means to you. 

Start saying it to yourself, "I am destined to be a big success in life."

Once you believe it, you will act as if everything that happens to you in life is part of a great plan to make you successful. That's what happened to me and it will happen to you too.

Even when I broke bones I believed that something good would come from it. I just believed it was part of the plan. I believed that anything that didn't kill me would make me stronger. 

You need to believe that way too. 

Every time I had a setback I looked for the lesson hidden within it. I set it up in my mind that no matter what happened, I would win. That helped me from getting discouraged along the way.

When you start thinking like that, nothing can stop you.

For the rest of the week be extra conscious about what you think. Be conscious about what your thoughts say about your underlying beliefs.

Whenever you have a self limiting belief, say to yourself, "What if that wasn't true? What if I had the ability to realize my dream?"

Saying these things will help eliminate that negative belief. 

Then, act like if that self limiting belief wasn't true and soon that elief will vanish. Because how you act influences how you belief.

Make it a priority to manage your thoughts and people will be amazed at what you accomplish.

2013 © OlympicMotivation.com , All rights reserved.

6/29/2014

There it is... now it's gone!
By Bob Perks

There it is.  Now it's gone.  A chance to do something, say something, make a difference, or make no difference at all except for having the chance and taking it.

I call them the "Shoulda Dones."

I shoulda done this or I shoulda done that. 

I often talk about living life fully.  Making every moment count.  I tell you not to live this day as if it were your last, but to live it like it was the first day.  A day so full of surprise and opportunity that the mere thought of having another day, makes you jump out of bed excited.

I love the "stop and smell the roses" people.

I love to read about people who saw a need and decided to fill it.

I rejoice in the stories I read about people who stopped running the rat race and did what they loved to do.

I remind you to always kiss them goodnight, tell them "I love you!," say "thanks" and mean it and smile, really smile a lot.

There it is.  Now it's gone.

Today will bring you many chances to...

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Say "I love you" or "Thank you!"

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Stop what you are doing and do something silly

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Buy flowers and give them away to strangers

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Pay for a stranger's breakfast

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Run ahead to hold the door

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Let a driver cut in front of you

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Call a friend you haven't spoken with in a long time

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Check on a neighbor

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Paint, write, or sing out loud

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Dance to the music in the mall

Or pull out a lawn chair and sit in the sun when the temperature is so low the tip of your nose freezes.

I had talked about doing it for days and yesterday I did.

It didn't make the news but it made me feel better about myself because I seized the moment. 

Do something today for yourself or someone and tell me about it.

I'm out to do something for someone else today.

It's not just another day, it's another chance!

"There it is... Now it's gone!" 

6/22/2014

The love that you radiate

By Nina Farrell

The eclipse, a full solar eclipse and the obliteration, or seeming obliteration, of the sun by the moon brings to mind, for me, how often we seem to forget the effect of our love, or lack of love, on the whole of the Universe.

We as humans see ourselves as "individuals" – insular, segregated, aside, away from others, and we experience loneliness in the midst of thousands in our massive cities. And there is surely nothing as difficult as feeling alone when one is surrounded by others, is there?

Yet, - we need to start understanding that there is no such thing as alone, no such thing as individuality – yes, there are our different viewpoints, our different perspectives on everything, but through it all, we are linked, merged, flowing in and out of each other, Source morphing, constant connection, our only sense of "separateness" in our minds.

As we become more and more aware that we do not "lose ourselves" by our comprehension of our Oneness, we feel ourselves augmented, refined, enlarged, lifted up, more and brighter and supported by the love that we radiate outwards, and inwards.

The love we feel for each other, from the smile to a stranger to our deep heart bonds, shines outwards to the furthest reaches of the cosmos and makes up the totality that is Source. From a non physical perspective the light can be seen, brighter than bright, soul light, heart light, the colors of the rainbow, pure blissful heart rending love. We are the creators of the great awakening while we are at the same time the ones who are awakening, in great waves across time and space. There is joy that rings out towards the stars, the song of Source that we can hear when we still the voice of our mind.

The love that you feel is never lost, even though it may not be reciprocated. No love is ever lost – it is the great driving force behind all growth and joy.

And so, may this day make you ever more aware of the love that you are, the pure liquid love that you are, ever expanding through your love for each other. Never hold back, never repress your love – it is Who We Are.

6/15/2014

How to Eliminate Your Self Limiting Beliefs

by Ruben Gonzalez

The only way to improve your life is to change your beliefs about yourself and about your possibilities. Only when you believe something is possible, will you take action.

Would you like to double your income? Sure you would! Who wouldn't? But here's the rub - do you believe it's possible? If you don't, you will not do what you need to do to double it.

Think about this. Since you started your first job, haven't you already doubled, tripled, quadrupled your income? Doesn't that prove that it's possible? You've already done it. Get over it. Start believing that it's possible to do it again and go for it.

And be open to creative ways of getting it done. We're not necessarily talking about doubling what you make from your job. Although that's possible, what you need to look at is doubling your total income by developing other streams of income. If you begin to look for opportunities, you'll find many that fit your skills, talents and passions.

You just have to believe it's possible. I've doubled my income twice in the last 24 months. Yes, I'm making 4X as much today as I did two years ago. And it's not all from one source. I've got multiple streams coming in and am always open to new opportunities as long as they fit several strict criteria that I've set for myself. 

Just today, I received two phone calls with very viable opportunities. The trick now is to know what to say no to. I will only consider opportunities that fit my criteria. Because I only have so much time. You need to do the same.

I make it a point to hang around people who are making 5-10 times what I'm making. I was on the phone with two millionaires just this morning. By doing that, you know what is happening? I'm starting to believe that I can do it too. It's all about what you sincerely believe.

I guarantee you that if I didn't make it a priority to regularly associate with millionaires, I would not believe that I can become a millionaire. By the way, these mentors of mine are doing the same thing. Except they add a few zeroes. The millionaires are hanging around billionaires. No joke.

You see, it's no different than what you tell your kids. An C student can't teach you how to become a B student and a B student can't teach you how to become an A student.

If all you do is hang around average people, I can tell you exactly what will happen. Before long, you'll start believing you have average intelligence, average creativity, average talent, average capability, and average skills. And you know what? In virtually every case, those beliefs will be wrong.

When you start associating with winners, you start realizing that they are not much smarter, talented, or gifted than most people. You start realizing that they are ordinary people with extraordinary desire, belief, focus, and willingness to get the job done.

You hang around them long enough and you start seeing the possibilities. You start seeing that you've had what it takes all along. You start developing hope, belief and faith in the future. And when that starts happening, look out! You start taking action. Because when there's hope in the future, there's power in the present.

You see, all beliefs are acquired. Beliefs are learned - and unlearned. You need to start believing that you have what it takes. Because you do. Next time you have a self-limiting belief, say to yourself, "What if that was not true at all?" 

Start thinking about yourself differently. Once you do, your life will change. You will start doubling and tripling your income. 

You will learn new skills and take on new challenges. You will set bigger goals and start throwing your heart into achieving them. You will start taking charge of your life. 

I caught the Olympic dream when I was ten years old. for eleven years I didn't act on my dream because I did not believe it was possible.

When I was 21 I saw little Scott Hamilton win the Gold Medal at the 1984 Sarajevo Olympics and all of a sudden I believed. I believed that if he could do it, I could do it. I believed that I was destined to be an Olympian.

You need to believe that you are destined to be a big success in life - whatever that means to you. 

Start saying it to yourself, "I am destined to be a big success in life."

Once you believe it, you will act as if everything that happens to you in life is part of a great plan to make you successful. That's what happened to me and it will happen to you too.

Even when I broke bones I believed that something good would come from it. I just believed it was part of the plan. I believed that anything that didn't kill me would make me stronger. 

You need to believe that way too. 

Every time I had a setback I looked for the lesson hidden within it. I set it up in my mind that no matter what happened, I would win. That helped me from getting discouraged along the way.

When you start thinking like that, nothing can stop you.

For the rest of the week be extra conscious about what you think. Be conscious about what your thoughts say about your underlying beliefs.

Whenever you have a self limiting belief, say to yourself, "What if that wasn't true? What if I had the ability to realize my dream?"

Saying these things will help eliminate that negative belief. 

Then, act like if that self limiting belief wasn't true and soon that elief will vanish. Because how you act influences how you belief.

Make it a priority to manage your thoughts and people will be amazed at what you accomplish.

2013 © OlympicMotivation.com

6/8/2014

Learn to Dream Big and You Will Live the Life of Your Dreams

By Ingrid Grzeskowiak

Let's start with a quote from Jim Rohn, one of the 50 world famous motivational speakers on personal development at Success University :

“Formal education will make you a living but self education will make you a fortune.”

We all remember the time in high school when it was much more important to win the football game of the season than getting an “A+” in chemistry. To be elected and honored as homecoming queen or king, being a member of the cheerleader team, or find out “who is asking Jenny out on Saturday” – those were the topics of interest.

Education in high school sort of happens without the conscious intent of the student. There are several reasons for this but the main one is, that going to school is not the primary choice of the student. He or she has to attend school. In most western countries it is prohibited by law to stay away from school. Sometimes students are taken to their classes even by police force. The common understanding of education is to go to school, get a job and earn a living.

Hence, the responsibility for the education and its outcome is placed on the teachers, the parents, the churches, the educational institutions and the environment. And they are doing their best. Self education however is much more powerful and totally relies on the student himself. It is self motivated, self responsible and the outcome is completely self earned. The power of self-education lies in its conscious choice. When we choose to take a course in fly fishing for instance, we will be going fishing sooner or later and try out what we have learned. Learning and taking action, testing out the new abilities to reach and achieve the goals we had in mind, describes the process of a conscious self-education.

Why is it then that so many people are clueless about how to live the life of their dreams?

The ability to dream decreases with the increasing age. If you listen to children speak about what they want to be later in life, they are so confident and self assured saying: I am going to be a famous lion-tamer. No doubt about it. We laugh about these childish statements because we think we know better. Unfortunately this is not the case. Many people give up their dreams and start to play small. They adjust their dreams to the life that meets them every day. They compromise and lose their passion, their determination in pursuing their goals of life. Slowly, slowly the mind repeats the same old story over and over again. Caught in the limitations of a mediocre life where big dreams are just soap bubbles, life gets boring and suffering takes over.

The limited mindset is focused on just earning enough money to keep out of debt and being able to pay the bills. This is definitely not what life is meant to be. And people know it. Somewhere deep down there is this nagging voice speaking to us constantly but we pretend to not hear it. It reminds us of our potential which is much, much greater than we could ever imagine. This sweet little voice tries to remind us to listen to ourselves, to our deepest longings, our wildest dreams.

It [the voice] cries out loud, that it wants to live and not be shut down in some mediocre life. It [the inner voice] expresses all the inspiration, the power of creation and the joy of life – a life of fulfillment, joy and happiness. Pursuing your dreams, no matter how big they are, gives you energy, inspires you and maybe for the first time makes you feel authentic. Dare to trust yourself on your dreams and dream as big as you can. Create a dream that inspires you, a dream that takes your breath away and watch the energy flooding in.

Once you start listening to yourself you will develop the mindset that you possess everything it takes to live the life of your dreams. It will strengthen your will-power, will give you confidence in making the right decisions and then… only then you are ready to start learning the principles and strategies to reinvent your life. There were people before you and there will be people coming after you but the only thing that matters right now is the choice you make about your life.

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6/1/2014

Time Management Help For College Students

Time management for college students is an imperative. Classes, study time, student activities, work-study, and home life can pull students apart, especially if they do not have a plan. It is the scheduled and disciplined student who will not only succeed but have the best and most rounded college experience.

Get And Use A Planner 
Keep a planner or calendar with you always to write everything down- notes for class, schedules, invitations, thoughts, ideas, etc. A planner will have a section to schedule your time, keeping commitments in place, while allowing you space for notes too. There is also the option for an electronic planner in the form of a smart phone or PDA.

Schedule It 
Writing things down will keep you ready for mid-term, finals, or just the perfect storm moments (a week of two tests and two papers due). Soon as you get your syllabus, write when key test are and papers due. Schedule everything around those moments, meaning that you should slice papers into equal components toward completion. Topic decided by week one, bibliography developed week two, reading and notes taken weeks three-five, outline week six, etc. Scheduling mid-terms and finals by giving study time two focuses; one, preparing for the next class (able to participate and contribute), and two, drilling the facts for tests. After these are done, you can add back in student activities, work, and fun to the schedule.

Review Weekly 
Check to see if you are on target each week. If you find yourself falling behind, some non-academic activities will have to be cut. Also, the review will have the benefit of letting you know what is ahead of you too.

Do To-Do Lists 
You may not be able to schedule everything, everyday. Keeping a to-do list will let you know what you want to accomplish should you find free time or what is to be accomplished when have an hour scheduled that says “Library Time.”

Print And Post The Calendars 
Yes, you keep a planner. But posting a monthly calendar everywhere will keep everything you need in mind. Place one in the bathroom, another on the refrigerator, and if you have a problem with too much TV, tape one to the bottom of the TV. These calendars will help keep you on track. They also have the side benefit of letting others (friends and family) know when not to bother you.

Get Your Fun In 
No problem with you watching your favorite TV shows, going out with friends, or enjoying ballgames. Just be sure it is scheduled, otherwise it will take all your time before you know it. You can also use it as a motivator (see reward yourself). Friends want to go out on Saturday night? Know Saturday morning you are going to the library to get a paper’s outline done, and then you are studying while doing laundry in the afternoon. Then you can enjoy the evening, guilt free, knowing that you deserve it, as you are ready for the next week.

Reward Yourself 
One of the sweetest rewards is to be done when everyone else is hurting. Knowing your papers are done, you are more than prepared for finals, and everything is turned in, is a wonderful feeling. Find a way to reward yourself. Of course, you can reward yourself for smaller accomplishments through out the semester. Keep yourself motivated.

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5/25/2014

The Ten Commandments of Success

Success is not reserved to a few selected individuals. It belongs to you as well, given that you are willing to go after it. But before you do, take 3 minutes to learn the Ten most important Success Commandments that stand at the base of any prosperous venture, any rewarding relationships, and any inspiring goal:

1. Thou shalt dream a great dream

Every important achievement always starts with a great dream. Do not settle for less, just because it is easy, familiar and guaranteed. At some point in your life you will have to face a decision to either risk it and go for an opportunity or settle for less than you know you are capable of achieving. Set goals that inspire, challenge, and excite you! This is the only way to leave your mark in this world!

2. Thou shalt do what thou loves

Success does not solely imply financial security and a handsome paycheck at the end of the month. It is about self-realization and enjoyment as well. You can be making a lot of money, but until you do what you love, real success will remain a far cry.

3. Thou shalt not be discouraged by criticism

Whenever you set out to do something original, daring, important and exciting there will always be people, who will try to talk you out of it. They will tell you your idea or goal is crazy, unrealistic, too risky, too innovative, too strange. Take it as possible feedback, not as the absolute truth, because in most cases people’s criticism has nothing to do with your goal and everything to do with their own personal fears, doubts and negative past experiences.

4. Thou shalt welcome thine failures

The more attempts you take at something the sooner you will figure out the best way of doing it. Do not be afraid to try and fail. In fact, welcome failure, learn from it and try again. I have yet to meet a person, who spent years learning, planning, collecting the right tools and then became successful overnight. But I know plenty of people who tried, failed, tired again, failed again, until one of their numerous attempts tuned into a flourishing business or a multi-million dollar idea.

5. Thou shalt not steal thy own time

Most of us feel guilty about wasting someone else’s time, yet part with our own without giving it a second thought. If you want to be successful in life you have to see every new day, every minute of your life as an opportunity for growth and achievement. Make it a habit of asking yourself throughout the day “Am I doing something meaningful or useful?” If not, you are stealing from yourself one of the most precious treasures you have been given – your time.

6. Thou shalt not flaunt thine ego by bringing others down

Little people try to make themselves look better by bringing others down. Great, truly successful people feel no need of belittling those of lesser status, intelligence and wealth. Starting today focus on empowering instead of judging, helping instead of criticizing, listening instead of talking, learning instead of convincing that your opinion is the only correct one in the room, and something magical will happen – people will follow you, seek your advice and offer their help without you having to ask for it.

7. Thou shalt invest in relationships

Our relationships with other people lay at the base of any significant area of our life. Our professional success depends on our relationships with our employees, colleagues, clients and business partners. Our personal life is built on relationships with our spouse, children, parents and friends. Even our spiritual growth is accelerated by our mentors, spiritual teachers, family members and sometimes strangers. Do not take people in your life for granted. Invest your time and energy into building and maintaining strong relationships with those you love, admire, and respect.

8. Thou shalt keep thine mind opened to possibilities

It is not always easy to spot a great opportunity that comes your way, especially when it looks like a problem, but this does not mean that we should stop trying. Be careful not to become too rigid in your thinking, as it will impede your ability to see possibilities and act on them.

9. Thou shalt not be swayed by distractions

Very often our success depends on our ability to concentrate our efforts on a few highly important goals and ignoring the rest. It is often tempting to stop what you are doing and chat with friends on facebook, to check your mailbox to see if there are any urgent emails or to take five minutes break and play solitaire.

A great way of dealing with such distractions is to remind yourself that they are the main reason why you will feel stressed out, overwhelmed and unproductive by the end of the week. Every time you say “No” to distractions you are moving one step closer to becoming a true master of your time.

10. Thou shalt treat the world the way thou wants to be treated

“What goes around comes around” – is the Universal law of life that works without exceptions. Your attitude in approaching people, situations and circumstances in your life can either help you to become successful or backfire right in your face. This is why before acting on an impulse take a fraction of the second to think, “What would I like to attract in my life?” Because if your actions are guided by negative emotions, you are doing yourself the biggest disfavor. On the other hand, if you act out of compassion, forgiveness, passion and kindness, you are creating a good karma that might last you a lifetime.

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5/18/2014

Simple Tricks to Write Faster and Smarter Research Papers

For many of you students, writing research papers can be stressful. It’s enough work just to think of something to write about, but actually finding evidence to back up a thesis is a rigorous battle that can turn into a nightmare without the proper foresight and planning.

It takes a lot of determination, hard work and wit to earn an “A,” but that doesn’t mean all research writing has to involve a 48 hour cram session fueled by Mountain Dew and Doritos.

Everyone gets stuck in the writing process from time to time, so here are a few tricks that help students write faster, more efficiently and sometimes even sound a little smarter.

Start Early

It’s not fun to write a whole research paper in one sitting. In fact, it’s a horrible idea. You might think that racing against the clock provides some much needed motivation to finish a paper, but the reality is you’ll just be forcing words on a page.

Instead of trying to do everything at once, one way to get ideas for research papers is to start with an outline. It doesn’t have to be detailed, but it should follow a simple format:

•   Thesis – the main point you’re trying to convey
•   Body – three or four points of evidence
•   Conclusion – state why all of your evidence supports your thesis

Some writers use this outline as a check-off sheet, and mark off each bullet point while they write. It doesn’t matter how you use it, but creating an outline is a great way to organize your thoughts and stay on track when it’s time to start writing.

Turn a Brainstorm into a Brain Hurricane

It sounds cliché, but when you’re stuck on an idea and don’t know what to write, you have to keep writing. Some people call it sprinting. Others call it a free write. The bottom line is to put all of your ideas out there and sift through the good ones later.

Any idea that comes to your head. Just keep writing. Don’t think. Forgot a period? Who cares? Just keep writing. Even when you don’t know what to write, keep your fingers cracking those keys.

It might take a few minutes, and you’re probably going to write some ideas that smell worse than Taco Bell gone bad, but you should be able to push through and find a hidden gem.

Call on Your Friendly Word Dinosaur

Even when you know what to write, sometimes the hardest part about writing a research paper is putting all the right words in just the right order. Whenever you have trouble finding the best word to use, or when you need to take three words and turn it into one fancy word, reach out for your thesaurus.

Less widely used compared to a dictionary, the thesaurus is the best tool for finding synonyms (words with a similar definition) or antonyms (words with a contrasting definition). While you might not know it, you probably have access to an amazing thesaurus on your home computer. Using Microsoft Word, highlight a word in a new document and use the hotkey Shift+F7 or hold ALT+click to open the thesaurus tool inside the Research Task Pane.

In fact, it’s always good to have a thesaurus or dictionary nearby. Whenever you read or hear a word you don’t know, make it a point to find out what it means.

Remember, writing a research paper shouldn’t feel like pulling teeth. If you can maintain time management, creativity and determination, you’ll finish your paper in no time. Have fun!

Source URL: http://www.goal-setting-guide.com/self-help-articles/tips-for-students

5/11/2014

Are You a Spider or a Lion?

By Karen Schmidt

When it comes to change, are you a spider or a lion? Do you sit back like the spider and wait for things to come to you or do you go out and hunt for your opportunities like the lion? When it comes to workplace change we need to have the attitude of the Lion. If we sit back and wait to see what happens we will usually be disappointed. There is an old saying that goes “good things come to those who wait” but today we need to remember that the only things left to those who wait are the things left behind by those who hustle!

In the jungle the “hustlers” are the Lions. They are the kings of the jungle for a good reason. If you want to be the king of your workplace jungle then you need to learn the difference between the spider and the lion. The lion is proactive and the spider is reactive. So what do these terms mean?

Proactive
A proactive person is someone who understands that they are in control of what happens to them in life. They take initiative and are responsible for their own actions. A proactive person has a high level of self esteem that is not affected by what other people think. Proactive people are driven by their values.

Reactive
The reactive person is the type with a "wait and see" attitude. They don't actively make decisions or take action but instead react to the decisions and actions of others. They are easily influenced by the behavior of others and their mood is determined by how others treat them. Reactive people are driven by their emotions.

When it comes to dealing with change, we need to be proactive. If you wait around hoping other people will do things to make the change easier for you then you will be disappointed. Being proactive does not mean you have to be pushy, aggressive or unreasonable. It simply means taking action to make things happen.

Proactive people are the ones who initiate change rather than being the victims of change. If a proactive person doesn’t agree with a change they don’t complain about it. No, they go out and hunt down another way to achieve the same result. In the mean time, the reactive person is using all their energy to fight the change and, lets face it, most of the time they don’t win.

So if you want to take charge of your career what sort of action do you need to take? Here is a list of suggestions that will turn you into a proactive person.

●   Make suggestions to your manager on small ways to improve productivity. Little things add up!

●   When a mistake happens, be open about it. Then take the time to analyze why it happened and work out ways of preventing it in the future 

●   Keep up to date with what’s happening in your industry so you can anticipate opportunities  

   Develop a network of contacts so that if the worst does happen and you lose your job you will have plenty of new opportunities

If you want to be s ome one who benefits from change at work learn the lesson of the Lion. Become a proactive person and you will guarantee your success at work well into the future.

Source URL: www.letsgrow.com.au  

5/4/2014

Thoughts for the Times

You can't be all things to all people.
You can't do all things at once.
You can't do all things equally well.
You can't do all things better than everyone else.
Your humanity is showing just like everyone else's.

So…

You have to find out who you are, and be that.
You have to decide what comes first, and do that.
You have to discover your strengths, and use them.
You have to learn not to compete with others because no one else is in the contest for being you.

Then…

You will have learned to accept your own uniqueness.
You will have learned to set priorities and make decisions.
You will have learned to live with your limitations.
You will have learned to give yourself the respect that is due, and you'll be a most vital mortal.

Dare to Believe…

That you are a wonderful, unique person.
That you are a once-in-all-history event.
That it's more than a right, it's your duty, to be who you are.
That life is not a problem to solve, but a gift to cherish.
And you'll be able to stay one up on what used to get you down.

4/27/2014

If Tomorrow Never Comes

If I knew it would be the last time that I see you walk out the door, I would give you a hug and kiss and call you back for one more.

If I knew it would be the last time I'd hear your voice lifted up in praise, I would video tape each action and word, so I could play them back day after day.

If I knew it would be the last time, I could spare an extra minute or two to stop and say "I love you," instead of assuming, you would know I do.

If I knew it would be the last time I would be there to share your day, well I'm sure you'll have so many more, so I can let just this one slip away.

For surely there's always tomorrow to make up for an oversight, and we always get a second chance to make everything right.

There will always be another day to say our "I love you's", and certainly there's another chance to say our "Anything I can do's?"

But just in case I might be wrong, and today is all I get, I'd like to say how much I love you and I hope we never forget, Tomorrow is not promised to anyone, young or old alike, and today may be the last chance you get to hold your loved one tight.

So if you're waiting for tomorrow, why not do it today?

For if tomorrow never comes, you'll surely regret the day, that you didn't take that extra time for a smile, a hug, or a kiss and you were too busy to grant someone, what turned out to be their one last wish.

So hold your loved ones close today, whisper in their ear, tell them how much you love them and that you'll always hold them dear, take time to say "I'm sorry," "please forgive me," "thank you" or "it's okay".

And if tomorrow never comes, you'll have no regrets about today.

4/20/2014

May you...

May you find serenity and tranquility in a world you may not always understand.

May the pain you have known and the conflict you have experienced give you the strength to walk through life facing each new situation with courage and optimism.

Always know that there are those whose love and understanding will always be there, even when you feel most alone

May you discover enough goodness in others to believe in a world of peace.

May a kind word, a reassuring touch, a warm smile be yours every day of your life, and may you give these gifts as well as receive them.

Remember the sunshine when the storm seems unending.

Teach love to those who know hate, and let that love embrace you as you go into the world.

May the teaching of those you admire become part of you, so that you may call upon them.

Remember, those whose lives you have touched and who have touched yours are always a part of you, even if the encounters were less than you would have wished. It is the content of the encounter that is more important than it’s form.

May you not become too concerned with material matters, but instead place immeasurable value on the goodness in your heart.

Find time in each day to see the beauty and love in the world around you. Realize that each person has limitless abilities, but each of us is different in our own way.

What you may feel you lack in one regard may be more than compensated for in another. What you feel you lack in the present may become one of your strengths in the future.

May you see your future as one filled with promise and possibility.

May you always feel loved.

4/13/2014 

Finding Your True Self 

By Chuck Gallozzi

Life's Greatest Adventure Is Discovering Our True Self. The question is, then, how do we uncover, recover, and discover our psychological and spiritual True Selves? We are all capable of doing it, but most of us will need gentle guidance and help along the way. If you wish to join me on this amazing adventure, here are some guide books that will take you by the hand and lead you to yet undreamed of adventure and discovery. Check the books out on the Internet; find one that matches your disposition, get it and dive in!

Once upon a time, ten men were making their way across a jungle. After arriving at a wide, swiftly moving, six-foot deep stream, they decided to cross it. After reaching the opposite bank, one of the men counted the members, forgetting to include himself. He shouted, "There are just nine of us! Someone is missing!"

Another man decided to check, so he recounted the group, but also forgot to include himself. "Yes, you are right," he said, "there are just nine of us, so someone is missing." One by one, the others also counted, each forgetting to include himself. Soon they were crying because they suspected one of their members perished in the stream.

Before returning to the story, take a moment to think of five great people, five people that you respect and admire. Did you think of five people that you look up to?

Why didn't you include yourself in the list of five people? Aren't you just like each of the ten men in the jungle who failed to include himself? Virtually all people are guilty of this flaw. That is, when they consider illustrious people, they never include themselves.

That's because most people don't realize how magnificent they are. The few people who do are called self-realized, or said to have reached self-realization or enlightenment. These are other ways of saying they have discovered their True Self. Embarking on the journey of self-discovery is the greatest adventure that life has to offer.

We can loosely divide the way we experience life into four categories or levels. First we have the pessimists. They believe life is a struggle, full of suffering, and pointless. Next we have the optimists. They believe difficulties can be overcome, enjoy life, and have a reason for living. Whenever they are unhappy with their circumstances, they work on self-improvement. Their deeper understanding of life brings them many rewards, including happiness.

But some adventurers continue on, exploring a deeper level. They make exciting discoveries. They learn that they are not what they thought they were! They thought they had self-doubt, fears, and limitations, but they uncovered their True Self, which knows no limits. Unlike optimists that are satisfied with merely repairing a damaged self, these adventurers work on remembering, reclaiming, and restoring their perfect self, which was always there, waiting to be claimed.

Our True Self is our true nature, and it is clearly visible in infants and uncorrupted young children. Infants are trusting, loving, courageous, curious, and cheerful. They are explorers, adventures, and discoverers. But as they are raised by parents and guided by teachers and society, they are knowingly or unwittingly programmed to believe they have many weaknesses and imperfections. This transformation from perfection to a problem- plagued life represents the collapse of our True Self and the creation of our False Self, and it happens so quickly that we soon forget who and what we really are.

The adventurers who take the trouble to discover their True Self are well rewarded. For the ordinary happiness known by optimists gives way to endless joy and freedom. Adventurers have discovered what Czechoslovakians have long known, "The person who God shows a treasure to must dig it out himself." (Czechoslovakian proverb)

Just as there is a formidable chasm between our True and False Selves, there is a huge gap between the third and fourth levels of experience. The first three levels are psychological, but for the fourth and final level, we must leave the realm of psychology and enter the field of spirituality. Yet, doing so is perfectly natural and scientific. After all, what am I? Am I not a swarm of incessantly moving molecules? How is that any different from you?

And what are molecules? Aren't they composed of atoms? But what are atoms? They are composed of subatomic particles. As we delve deeper and deeper into the ultimate composition of the universe and the 'glue' that holds it together, we reach the nonphysical, which we can label as immateriality, energy, or spirit.

So, what am I? At my deepest level, hidden in the recesses of my being, I am spirit. The word 'spirit' is just another label. We can choose to use different words. Some call it God. I choose to call it LIFE (It's the same thing). Life expresses itself through me, you, and everything in the universe. We are the notes in its majestic symphony. I can no more be separated from life than sunbeams can be separated from the sun.

So, the greatest adventure that life offers us is the discovery of our spiritual True Self. This discovery awaits all spiritual seekers. It is not an intellectual exercise but a life- transforming experience. It is akin to a near death experience; it completely liberates us.

The pessimist is locked in a prison cell of his own making. The optimist has unlocked the door of his cell and his free to roam anywhere in the prison. The adventurer who has discovered his psychological True Self found the key to the prison and is free to roam anywhere in the city and country. But the seeker who discovers his spiritual True Self knows unabated freedom. He is free to roam anywhere on earth and beyond.

Adventurers who discovered their psychological True Self, see themselves in a very positive light. They may see themselves as brilliant scientists, world class athletes, nurturing parents or teachers, inspiring leaders, social activists. But for seekers who found their spiritual True Self, these descriptions or labels are far too restrictive. For they see themselves and their possibilities as boundless as the universe. Although adventurers experience love, spiritual seekers become love itself, for that is the nature of our spiritual True Self. These enlightened beings radiate compassion wherever they go, for they are profoundly in love with all that is. As for freedom, Walter A. Keers explains, "If you are enlightened, you are not free as some people would say, but you are freedom itself. Not like a bird in the sky, but like the sky itself."  

Source URL: http://www.personal-development.com/chuck/finding-true-self.ht

4/6/2014

Are You Managing Your Time With Activity Or Productivity?

What is the difference?

Rich, poor, celebrity or unknown, we are all blessed with 24 hours a day. You probably know someone, who seems to do everything in the world and you wonder how they can. You also know someone who seems to do nothing every day, yet can not seem to add anything more to their day.

The difference in this time management is surprisingly simple. The difference between the person who seems to be able to do a week’s worth of work in a day and the one who has no time is all a matter of scheduling and realizing what is truly important. It is a matter of changing your productivity to match what needs to be done as part of the big picture rather than what needs to be done in the now.

How does seeing the big picture help?

Here is a time management example, imagine your aunt is coming in a week to visit you. You have not seen her in a long time, so you want the house looking nice. You are hoping you can get it clean in a week. She calls and tells you plans have changed; she is going to be there in tomorrow. You were not certain how to get the house clean in a week, yet suddenly you find either a way to clean the house or make it presentable in a day.

What changed?

The difference was you could not find ways to delay, you were forced to manage your time. You realized the what parts of cleaning your house were actually important. You accepted that some things could not be fixed in the time allowed and changed what could. You knew what needed to be done in the time allowed and did it, without question or delay.

Are you productive or active?

Moving paperwork from here to there, only to move it again later is being active. Putting papers that actually require work in an inbox, filing papers you need later, and throwing away any paperwork you do not need away is being productive. Rather than deal with all your clients focus on the clients the buy from you. Instead of organizing all your emails, decide on what is really important and eliminate the rest.

What is really important?

The big picture, the long term goal is what is really important. More sales is what is important to a salesperson, so rather than call unqualified customers, the goal is finding a source of qualified customers. Spending time with the family is more important than spending hours cooking elaborate meals, so a 30 minute meal will work.

You have the key.

The key is understanding what is important. When you focus on the important time management becomes simpler, because you recognize busy work for what it is. Activity is the key to wondering where your time went. Productivity is the key to getting more done in your day, when you learn this, people will begin to wonder how you get so much done in a day.

Source URL: http://www.goal-setting-guide.com

3/30/2014

When Discipline Becomes a Habit, Boredom Enters Your Life

Daily routines seem to be boring phenomena to many. Especially if you have to wake up at six, reach office by nine and come back home by eight in the evening, after pushing your head through a mad traffic, you will start hating your life. Our elders always choose to advise us to be disciplined. They tell us about their experiences and site believable examples about SUCCESSFUL people who were successful (according to them) because they were disciplined. Many parents want their children to be disciplined to a level that often drives them crazy and children end up doing exactly opposite.

Discipline is not about a fixed routine. Discipline is about putting your own self to an order at the level of health and fitness, work and studies, friends and relationships etc.

1. “You turn down your friends offer to watch a movie because it’s an important day at office” – that’s discipline. “You don’t accompany your colleague for a cup of coffee after you finished your shift because you have to reach home by ten everyday’ – that’s not discipline. That’s you submitting to a routine.
2. “You wake up at 6 in the morning, brush your teeth, do some yoga exercises and then have a light breakfast at 8 before you leave for office” – that’s discipline. “You didn’t have your breakfast because your mom prepared something other than your favorite list of items for breakfast” – that’s certainly not discipline.

Discipline is about having the sufficient gut to do what you want and do it with full attention. If you take up a task, complete it by the deadline and do it well, you are disciplined at work. That doesn’t mean you should always follow a specific method or approach. As soon as you stop playing with methods and ways, you stop growing!

Here are key benefits of discipline:

1.    You will be more organized. You can manage your time well and also find some free time to recreate yourself. Your life will be less chaotic and everything will make sense to you. You will not swear at the crowd where everyone is pushing himself forward.

2. You will be better at work or studies. You will keep disturbances and stress at bay and put your hundred percent in doing what you are supposed to do. You will love what you study or do because you will become good at it.

3. You will be a happy individual. Your head will stay safe from clutter and sudden unexpected audio visuals. You will have a peaceful sleep at night and you will appreciate the morning sunshine when you wake up.

When discipline becomes routine:

As soon discipline becomes a routine, you are becoming lesser a part of the practice under discipline. Your involvement comes to a halt because you don’t feel alive while you travel to office by bus, talk to your colleagues on escalator or sit on your desk.

1. You will start hating it. You will be less interested in doing what you are doing. You will find that you suddenly lost interest in doing what you always wanted to do.
2. Boredom enters your life sphere. Suddenly, you don’t like the atmosphere in laboratory or office where you were so happy earlier.
3. Everything starts messing itself up. When your head goes nuts, everything else follows.

When routine becomes habit:

1. That’s the worst part. You won’t feel alive. You will run from one corner to other but peace will continue eluding you.
2. You will stop dreaming about ‘good and great things’ you want in your life.

As soon as you start acting out of habit, whole joy of action is lost. It is important to lose habitual practice to have anything new in life. In the world of internet, majority of young population spend their time on social networking websites, chat rooms and several other portals. As long as the excitement is there, as long as the eagerness is there, they find it interesting. Then, it becomes a habit.

After a few weeks, they spend four hours on internet but do not enjoy as much. They keep spending time on it and start hating it. It’s ironic to see that they will still continue doing so until the dissatisfaction reaches alarming levels and head starts heating up like an oven. It’s important that we live a life with as few habits as possible.

Here are a few things you can try:

1. Go for a morning walk if you have not done it for years.Try a different trek if are already doing it and don’t find it joyful.
2. Visit an old friend or just talk to him/her online.
3. Stay offline for an entire day! Say goodbye to social networking sites for a few days.
4. Travel shorter distances on foot if that makes you happy. or by a new bike if you have been putting yourself at discomfort by walking too much.
5. Visit a new restaurant in your locality. Try new dishes and see if you like them.
6. Start writing a diary. Stop doing it for sometime if that was one of your habits you don’t enjoy any more J
7. Join a new course at the local institution. Learn music, writing, dance, drama, public speaking etc. Do what you wanted to do when you were young.
8. Take a day off and visit a nice place.

To sum up:

Discipline is like drinking milk daily because you think it makes you healthy and you enjoy its taste. Routine is like drinking milk daily for reasons unknown! Habit is like drinking milk daily while you have forgotten the true taste of milk.

3/23/2014

Beyond Impressions

Harmony of the heart is being in tune with the nature. Harmony does not have to mean agreement. Harmony is more like peace. People can be opposed in their thoughts and opinions, and yet there is no opposition. There is acceptance. There is no need to change how anyone thinks. What does it matter if one calls the sky green and the grass blue?

Ways to think cannot be forced. No one can be made to think one way or another. It is not obligatory. Thoughts do change, yet they can change only of their own accord. Thoughts have a will of their own. You cannot by dint of will change even your own thoughts let alone someone else’s. Yet the day will come when your thoughts do change.

Thoughts resemble beliefs. You believe what you believe. No matter what the reward or punishment, you can only believe what you believe. You can act differently from what you believe. You can pretend to believe and not yet believe.

Yet it is good to have your thoughts and actions coincide. If you think to do a kind act, follow through on it. Do not let opportunities go by. Then you will not have regrets. A kind thought is good. A kind thought acted on is better.

By what means do thoughts change? You cannot make them change, yet thoughts change. Thoughts change when a light goes on. Your thoughts are based on your perceptions. How you think depends upon how you see.

Today you see the person in front of you as a friend. Tomorrow you may see him as a foe. Have you not experienced this or vice versa? The person before you is what you make of him. You paint your own picture with the brushes of your perception.

You may say that another’s person’s words, actions, or reactions are what you base your thoughts on. You base your thoughts on your interpretation of another’s words, actions, or reactions. You must know this is so. There may be someone you cannot tolerate, and someone else loves that person you cannot tolerate.

You may say that the person you don’t like shows himself in a different light to the one who loves him. That may well be so. And yet it is also possible that he gives the best of himself because the one who loves him sees him differently and treats him differently too.

Your interpretations are everything.

This is true in nations as well. In one culture, a certain action is considered lovely. In another culture, it may be viewed as not lovely. If you see friendliness, odds are you will respond in friendliness. If you see aloofness, odds are you will be aloof also.

What else is there to say, but that you think and act based upon your impressions. True or false, right or wrong, you respond to how you see.

Now you are coming to the point where you go beyond impressions. You come to the point where you come from, not where you surmise someone else to be, but from where you are.

You are not to spend your life bouncing off other people. If you must bounce, bounce off the nature. It will feel good, and you will be so gentle.

You will stand on a mountain top. You will be the mountain. What fuss will a mountain make of grass that grows at its feet? What will the mountain mind? What will it object to? What will it not love when it stands so tall above the madding crowd?

Source URL: http://www.heavenletters.org/beyond-impressions.html

3/16/2014

The Sun Rises

When you wake up in the morning, you are like the sun just rising. It is automatic for you to rise out of bed. And, now, begin to think that you are rising in order for your light to shine on the day. With what enthusiasm will you rise? And imagine the eagerness with which the world will greet you.

The world has been waiting for you. You are here to brighten up the world. You are to raise yourself to great heights so that the world can rise with you. The world has to rise. It can rise only according to you. The world follows in your footsteps.

When you wake up in the morning, be like the sun rising over the horizon. Spread the rays of your heart wide. The dew of the grass will reflect your light.

Today, all during the day, look at everyone as a sun rising before you. Never mind clouds that might cover the sun before you. The sun of the person before you may be unaware of his own sunlight. Let him see his light in your eyes then. Let him be ennobled by your light shining on him.

You are a light that shines. Even as you are someone who has to go to work, perhaps take the subway, go to a job that you are tired of, that is where your light is to shine. Light up the subway by your own radiance. Light up your job by your very presence. Blazon your light, so that others may see it and so that you yourself may see your own light in its entire splendor.

Do not tell yourself that, as one person, you are incapable of lighting the world. You have sometimes let one person darken your world, haven't you? One person's expression or word has shrunk your heart. Is not light as powerful as the dark? Light is more powerful. Your light is more powerful. If you think your light isn't exceedingly powerful, you have been kidding yourself.

Remember that you are a shiner of light. You are not a bearer of bad news. You are not someone who is to keep yourself or anyone or the world glued in place. You are to loosen the bonds that keep people in place. You are to free the world to its own possibilities. It is you who will make possibilities certainties.

The way to do this is for you to stop looking at your feet. Cease to look at things as they have been. Begin to look at the world as it is meant to be looked at. See the possibilities. There is an untraveled path before you. That is the path to take. Your step will be light. The path will be well-lighted. You will have lighted it. Before you know it, there will be no path under you. You who are light will be walking on light. The light you follow is your own light radiated before you. There will be no detouring from it, so clear will be the light that you are, so strong will be the signal you send.

Your path is well-lighted. Do not for one moment delude yourself that you are in darkness. Dark is merely a subterfuge. It is a scam. Even if you have previously bought into darkness a thousand times, today you buy into light, and know it is yours, and yours to shine so that you may see it and see all others warmed in the rising light that you are.

Source URL: http://www.heavenletters.org/the-sun-rises.html

3/9/2014

Release Your Teachers

By Jennifer Hoffman

Within your soul group you are both teacher and student, learning from and teaching each other as you complete what for many of you is a final stage in this journey of ascension. Jennifer Hoffman has the best insight.

Be grateful for each teacher in your life and for the challenges they provide you with as they are no more than the completion and closure you require to finish your cycle through the third dimension. With each new understanding you release connections to the teachers who have agreed to walk with you and then you and they are free from each other.

While you may feel that you are on one path to healing, your journey has limitless options, each of which has different teachers and lessons and addresses a healing need within all of you. The lessons appear to be difficult and complex but there is one lesson for humanity to learn, which is reflected in each individual life path, and that is the lesson of compassion. To release your teachers, compassion is the lesson you must embrace and apply to all aspects of your life.

Compassion includes understanding, acceptance and allowance, respect for self and others, honoring each path and the dissension of the light into your being. With each gift of compassion you release your teachers, freeing them from their contracts with you and their commitment to your growth and healing. Just as you may regret their presence in your life, they may also regret their obligations to you.

Compassion moves you beyond holding light and healing for others for with it, they can find these truths within themselves. It awakens them to their power and shifts their thinking from being a victim into their being. With compassion you set your intention for releasing your teachers and can choose healing over karma and love instead of pain. Your gift of compassion may create a void in your path as your old teachers leave and new teachers and lessons enter, on a higher path and vibration. Compassion resonates with unconditional love and is the brightest light you can offer to the world. It is the lesson of ascension, the door way to heaven on earth and is what will bring peace, love and joy to a world that needs it at this time.

Copyright ©2010 by Jennifer Hoffman and Enlightening Life OmniMedia, Inc.

3/2/2014

An Old Farmer's Advice and Wisdom

Your fences need to be horse-high, pig-tight and bull-strong.
Life is simpler when you plough around the stump.
A bumble bee is considerably faster than a John Deere tractor.
Words that soak into your ears are whispered...not yelled.
Meanness don't jes' happen overnight.
Forgive your enemies. It messes up their heads.
Do not corner something that you know is meaner than you.
It don't take a very big person to carry a grudge.
You cannot unsay a cruel word.
Every path has a few puddles.
When you wallow with pigs, expect to get dirty.
The best sermons are lived, not preached.
Most of the stuff people worry about ain't never gonna happen anyway.
Don't judge folks by their relatives.
Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you'll enjoy it a second time.
Don't interfere with somethin' that ain't botherin' you none.
Timing has a lot to do with the outcome of a rain dance.
If you find yourself in a hole, the first thing to do is stop diggin'.
Sometimes you get, and sometimes you get not.
The biggest troublemaker you'll probably ever have to deal with, watches you from the mirror every mornin'.
Always drink upstream from the herd.
Good judgment comes from experience, and a lotta that comes from bad judgment.
Lettin' the cat outta the bag is a whole lot easier than puttin' it back in.
If you get to thinkin' you're a person of some influence, try orderin' somebody else's dog around.
Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply. Speak kindly.
(And Don't forget - Don't spit into the wind...)

2/23/2014

Have You Lost Your Focus?

By Michael Angier

We all know how important it is to focus on what we want.

But what happens when we LOSE focus?

It’s easy to do, isn’t it?

We get distracted. Something captures our interest and diverts our attention away from our chosen objective.

We suffer setbacks. Things don’t work out as planned. Someone lets us down.

Circumstances change and good plans go bad. We get interrupted. An important matter takes precedence—sometimes for long periods of time.

We, or members of our team, get sick or hurt. We don’t have the energy we had before and find it slow to get back in the game.

These things happen to everyone. And we have to be careful we don’t think we're being singled out. The “Why is this happening to me?” question gets us nowhere.

We must first recognize that we’ve lost focus. And at the earliest opportunity, we must recommit. We have to get back on the horse we fell off from and ride again.

And this is what separates the winners from the losers.

The loser says it’s too hard. He says it’s not worth the effort. He thinks it’s just “not in the cards” and he quits.

But the winner doesn’t take the set-back personally. She dusts herself off and recommits to the plan. She sees the setback as just that—a setback—not a sign that it’s not to be.

What do YOU need to refocus upon? Is it a positive habit? Is it a goal? Is it a toleration you said you’d eliminate?

Revisit your reasons why. Focus on the results you will produce and not on what has not worked. Because what you focus on expands.

Today’s a new day. The past is just as historic as if it had happened a thousand years ago. You can’t change what’s happened or not happened. But you CAN recommit. You CAN refocus.

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2/16/2014

There it is... now it's gone!
By Bob Perks

There it is.  Now it's gone.  A chance to do something, say something, make a difference, or make no difference at all except for having the chance and taking it.

I call them the "Shoulda Dones."

I shoulda done this or I shoulda done that. 

I often talk about living life fully.  Making every moment count.  I tell you not to live this day as if it were your last, but to live it like it was the first day.  A day so full of surprise and opportunity that the mere thought of having another day, makes you jump out of bed excited.

I love the "stop and smell the roses" people.

I love to read about people who saw a need and decided to fill it.

I rejoice in the stories I read about people who stopped running the rat race and did what they loved to do.

I remind you to always kiss them goodnight, tell them "I love you!," say "thanks" and mean it and smile, really smile a lot.

There it is.  Now it's gone.

Today will bring you many chances to...

Say "I love you" or "Thank you!"

Stop what you are doing and do something silly

Buy flowers and give them away to strangers

Pay for a stranger's breakfast

Run ahead to hold the door

Let a driver cut in front of you

Call a friend you haven't spoken with in a long time

Check on a neighbor

Paint, write, or sing out loud

Dance to the music in the mall

Or pull out a lawn chair and sit in the sun when the temperature is so low the tip of your nose freezes.

I had talked about doing it for days and yesterday I did.

It didn't make the news but it made me feel better about myself because I seized the moment. 

Do something today for yourself or someone and tell me about it.

I'm out to do something for someone else today.

It's not just another day, it's another chance!

"There it is... Now it's gone!"

2/9/2014

The Toughest Things
By Bob Perks

There are lessons to be learned and people to teach them. I find that to be true in every part of our lives.  It is important to note that sometimes we are the student and sometimes we are the teacher.  So, how do we know if we are learning or teaching? It all depends on our attitude.

How do we know if we are learning or teaching? It all depends on our attitude. For me, I take the attitude of the student.  I want to learn.  I want to see the world, not as a gigantic classroom, but as a fun, exciting field trip without textbooks, instructions, or rules.

This means I learn more from the mistakes I make than the accuracy of the steps I take in the right direction.

In my life, the best lessons are learned the hard way. 

What comes easy to me, I forget.

So, here is a list of what would appear to be easy things that require more than we realize:

To love a dog is easy, but to be worthy of its love is tough...
Our pets love us unconditionally. Which means we hardly need to do anything to get that love.  But ask yourself based on the time and attention you give, if you really deserve it?  This applies to our relationship with people, too.

To teach a child is easy, but to live what we teach...
I can remember the old phrase "Do as I say, not as I do!" What you do may be the true lesson your child is learning. Teach by example.

To watch a sunset is easy, but to see it as a new beginning...
How many times have you said, "I can't wait until this day is over!" When it ends, do you simply brush it off?  Linger in anger and stress over it?  Adjust your attitude and see the day's end as a new chance to begin again?

To see what's wrong is easy, but to make it right...
We can't right every wrong in the world, but just pointing out what's wrong won't make the world a better place. What the world needs are people who take action.  If you don't have the ability to change it, find someone who does then help them.  "Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter."  Martin Luther King Jr.

To fall down is easy, but to get up again and again...
Sometimes life is unbearable.  Failure is not how many times you fall, but the last time you chose not to get up again.

To give is easy, but to give when it calls for sacrifice...
Even in these tough economic times there are things we can do to help others.  It may call for belt tightening, or giving a little extra time to a cause, but sacrifice gives to both the giver and the receiver.

To lie is easy, but to tell the truth when you have lied...
The greatest enemy in any relationship is the lie.  Upon it grows mistrust.  Revealing it brings about rebirth and a chance to grow even closer.

To be angry is easy, but to forgive...

It is said that "forgiveness frees the forgiver." One can let go through forgiveness or be weighed down with the burden of remembering forever.

To criticize is easy, but to praise...
I have found that there are more things to praise in life than to criticize.  It has also helped me to find life more enjoyable.  Praise is like oxygen to one who is suffocating under criticism.

To try is easy, but to do...
I can say "I'll try!" and make very little commitment  to do it. But if I say "I'll do it!" my mind and body will respond differently to the challenge.  "Do or do not.  There is no try."  Yoda

To begin is easy, but to finish...is tough.
"Begin" is an idea.  "Finish" becomes a reality. Most people say, "If I only had the money I would..." You don't have a money problem, you have a idea problem.  Any plan can begin on paper without costing anything but time and effort.  Finish the project, evaluate it and work the plan.  Or begin a new one based on what you've learned.

1/26/2014

New Year’s Resolutions

By Oliver Thomas

New Year's resolution No. 1: Become more empathetic

This is where it all starts. If I can't see the world through others' eyes, I will never be a good citizen, much less able to love my neighbor as myself. Until we understand each other, we will never make common cause.

So how does one become more empathetic? By engaging with people different from ourselves and listening. So take a gay work colleague to lunch. Vis­it a mosque, synagogue or African-American church. Invite a friend from a different political par­ty over for a beer. Then, ask questions. And listen.

New Year's resolution No. 2: Practice compassion

The Dalai Lama says if you want to make other people happy, practice compassion. If you want to make yourself happy, practice compassion. The quickest way to become more compassionate? Volunteer. I do it once a week at a local children's home, but there are a thousand other choices. Call your local United Way for a list of good options.

Here's another way. Do as the bumper sticker says and start engaging in random acts of kindness. Don't just walk by the homeless person. Take her to lunch. Give your coat to the man standing on the windy street corner in a threadbare jacket. You've probably got more at home. Throw a twenty in the Salvation Army's pot when you're shopping. Just start doing kind things for others. Compassion must be practiced, and here's the thing: Behavior begets habit. Habit begets character. Next thing you know, you've become a compassionate person.

New Year's resolution No. 3: Hold your tongue

James, the brother of Jesus, had this to say about the human tongue: "How great a forest is set aflame by such a small fire! ... For every species of beasts and birds, of reptiles and creatures of the sea, is tamed and has been tamed by the human race. But no one can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil1; and full of deadly poison."

Rarely have I gotten into trouble for things I didn't say. More often, I'm hoisted with my own petard.

Accordingly, I'll start with this simple goal: Speak no harm. When I'm tempted to do otherwise, I'll try to follow my mother's sage advice and count to 20 before I speak. This one will be the hardest for me.

We have much to be thankful for. But while some are being called on to die for our country, perhaps the rest of us are being called on to live for it. Whether we can become the people we must be in order to be the nation the world needs us to be is, entirely up to us.

Oliver Thomas is a member of USA TODAY's board, of contributors and author of 10 Things Your Minis­ter Wants to Tell You (But Can't Because He Needs, the job).

1/19/2014

The Ability to Respectfully Disagree

By Michael Angier

A critical key to success in your career and in your life overall is developing and maintaining good relationships. Here is a great article by Michael Angier who has a support network helping people and businesses grow and prosper.

Our relationships with friends, coworkers, suppliers, spouses, clients, bosses, siblings, teachers, employees, competitors and parents affect everything we do. Our success is highly dependent upon these relationships.

And it's not enough to be likable. Being agreeable and good natured are admirable traits. But in order to effect real change—in order to be a leader—one must often go against the norm. To make a difference, we often have to disagree with people and take different positions. Just going along with everyone will not work.

People are often surprised at how diverse my friends and business associates are. I have good relationships with people who are liberal and conservative, religious and secular. I seem to be able to get along with people from different cultures, with dissimilar philosophies and even divergent values.

I credit this to usually being tolerant and respectful. I like people and I learn something from almost everyone. I don't need to be right—even though I like to be. I also don't believe there is only one way, one path, one right answer.

The trick is to be able to disagree without being disagreeable. We want to respect others and have others respect us.

I think it starts with respecting others enough to listen to their points of view —and to do this regardless of whether or not we agree with them. The more you understand, the more you validate their viewpoint, the more likely it is they'll respond in kind, and you'll have a better relationship.

There's real truth in the old adage, "people don't care how much you know until they know how much we care." And I love Stephen Covey's profound maxim, "seek first to understand."

We all know that a response to someone's viewpoint like, "That's stupid!" is near the worst end of the spectrum. Here are a few on the other side. Be aware: they require you to be sincere and won't work unless you are.

"That's an interesting viewpoint. You must have a good reason for thinking that way. Do you mind telling me what it is?"

"I think I understand what you're saying, and could you tell me more about how you arrived at your opinion?"

"That's interesting. And I see it somewhat differently. May I explain?"

"I see what you're saying. I have another way of looking at it . . ."

There are many more. The point is to respond with respect, courtesy and honesty.

Action Point

Commit to improving your ability to talk about controversial things in a responsible, respectful and tolerant fashion. You'll get better with practice, but you won't practice and experiment unless you're committed to doing it well.

Then do it. Respond, don't react. Be considerate without being abrasive. Speak your truth with compassion.

After discussions, think about how you might have responded better—how you could have listened better, demonstrated more respect and been more tolerant. Don't make yourself wrong for it; just notice what you do, then resolve to do it better next time.

1/12/2014

What surprises me most about humankind?

That they get bored with childhood, they rush to grow up, and then long to be children again.

That they lose their health to make money... and then lose their money to restore their health.

That by thinking anxiously about the future, they forget the present, such that they live in neither the present nor the future.

That they live as if they will never die, and die as though they had never lived.

1/5/2014

New Year

A new year lies ahead. We all possess the capacity to feel and to touch, to be happy, to have friends, to receive love, to realize the demands of a world that needs our encouragement, our participation, our beliefs. All of us are one -- the rich, the poor, the educated, the illiterate, the student, businessperson, the professional, the person with spouse and children, the person who is alone. So much is new in our world -- new people, new directions, new opportunities, and new purpose. Every day is a new day bringing into our lives friendship, promise, and love.

Let us ask ourselves hard questions…

How much time did we waste in the year that is now gone?

Did we fill our days with life, or were they dull and empty?

Was there love inside our home, or was the affectionate word left unsaid?

Was there a real companionship with our children, our parents or was there a living together and a growing apart?

Were we a help to our mates, or did we take them for granted?

With our friends - Were we there when they needed us?

The kind deed: Did we perform it or postpone it? The unnecessary gibe: did we say it or hold it back?

Did we live by false values? Did we deceive others? Did we deceive ourselves?

Were we sensitive to the rights and feelings of those who worked with us?

Did we acquire only possessions, or did we acquire new insights as well?

Did we fear what the crowd would say and keep quiet when we should have spoken out?

Did we mind only our own business, or did we feel the heartbreak of others?

And…

Did we live right, and if not, then have we learned and will we change?

 

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