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Studying Made Simple

Study methods

·        Do not just study one single subject for long hours.

·        Study 2-3 different subjects regularly everyday, even if there’s no test.

·        Review what’s been taught in class, on the very same day.

·        Preview the lessons which haven’t been taught.

·        Use mind-mapping concept in studying.

·        Instead of memorizing one whole paragraph, highlight the important points and try to understand, not mug up, so that you can develop the points in your own sentences in the test.

·        Each study period lasts for about 25 minutes.

·        Take a break about 5-10 minutes after each study period.

·        Do not do anything that needs concentration during the break, ie. playing electronic games, reading    story book, etc.

·        Drink a cup of tea/coffee, sit back and relax during break time.

·        Do not multitask while studying.

·        Listen to soft music only, e.g. baroque, or other classics.

Self commitment

·           Make a proper daily study schedule.

·        Commit yourself to the schedule that you’ve made.

·        Do not take learning as something boring or difficult, in fact take it easy, no tension.

Do not set any target for marks, just give it the best shot, however you should be aware that having no marks target doesn’t mean it’s ok if you get failing marks, failing marks are not at all your best shot!

Health matters

·        Eat balanced diet and exercise regularly everyday.

·        Sleep at least 8 hours a day.

·        Avoid staying up till late at night when you’re having tests.

·        Staying awake the whole night studying for a test is not recommended, you may finish studying the portion for the test but the next day you’re going to forget them all!

·        Early to bed, early to rise, makes a student healthy, brainy, and fresh.


Take a Chance

(From Ruben Gonzalez's book "Becoming Unstoppable.")

The most successful people in the world are risk takers. As soon as they see an opportunity, they move quickly and make something happen. They have a special quality that sets them apart from less successful people. They take initiative in everything they do. Successful people accept responsibility and take action when they see something needs to be done. They don't suffer from paralysis of analysis. They just do something. Anything that will get them closer to their goal.

By taking action - massive action - they build momentum and soon good things start to happen. My business coach likes to say, "Most people need to think less and act more." Another of my mentors always says, "Done is better than perfect." Another way to say it is - implement now, perfect later. If you want to succeed, be willing to fail. To succeed big, be willing to fail big. To succeed fast, be willing to fail fast.

 Successful people are willing to try different approaches to reach their goal. They are not worried about failing. They are just focused on the result. They just throw mud on the wall knowing that if they throw enough, some of it will stick. They never focus on the approaches that didn't work. There's no tie for that. Wallowing with self pity is for losers. Winners simply learn from their mistakes and quickly try a different approach.

The faster they move, the more energy they have. The more different things they try, the more likely they are of succeeding. They make a game out of it. And they never take their focus away from the goal. Their attitude is - there is always a way. I will find a way. I will succeed

A national survey of octogenarians revealed that their biggest regret in life was not having had taken enough risks. Think about that! What they're saying is they realize they did not live life to the fullest and they missed out.

When you turn eighty you don't want to have that regret. So go for it. Take a chance. Do something. You'll be glad you did.

Copyright © 2007 Ruben Gonzalez


Be a Story Teller, Not Just a Speaker

Speakers are ordinarily people, from teachers to grandparents, from mountain climbers to cancer survivors. The platform provides them with a privilege and awesome responsibility to share their stories in a way that helps the audience to “wake up.” Good stories make people say, “Wait a minute. I can think or act differently about everything than I did before.” Stories are everywhere. Speakers learn to retrieve them and retell them to audiences as a way to show their humanness to show they care; to open people to possibility thinking and how making mistakes will lead to the courage to finally help them succeed. Because most of us define our thoughts visually, great stories help to enhance and even transform our lives.

Be unique. Think funny thoughts. Live and re-live your story when you are telling a story. Words are critical so be sure to pause when necessary and be in the now. Your words need to create an image in the audience’s mind so that they can remember your story. They may be a step away from their own story. This will strengthen the connection between you and them.

What is your story?


Hold That Elevator!
By Clyde Dennis

As Prince, or whatever his name is now put it in one of his songs, "When Life’s elevator tries to bring you down go crazy, punch a higher floor!"

Well..., This way to the next level!

For the past couple of weeks I’ve experienced one of those periods I both love and hate at the same time. Hate’em because they’re painful. Love’em because they’re great measuring sticks and opportunities to see how far I’ve come and get a real indication of how far I still have to go. These are great opportunities for gaining even more clarity as well.

Just because I have the choice and can, let’s focus on the measuring stick side of this equation.

See, I’ve come to the conclusion that Life is about levels. From the time we’re born to the time we’re planted we should be about growing and learning and teaching. Continually moving onward and upward from level to level in our development. This is one of those things we need to keep a constant vigil on. If we’re not careful one day you’ll wake up and realize you’re still where you were three, four, five years ago. Same level of thinking. Same level of Life. Not good.

Stop this week. Consider what level you’re on. How long have you been there? How long do you plan on staying? What’s it going to take to get yourself to the next level? Some questions to ponder.

Life is a great teacher. If we’ll open our eyes and get the lessons, Life’ll take us right through the levels. Sometimes Life gets tired of the subtle approach though. Nothing like a good swift kick in the stomach from Life to get your attention and make you realize you’re not performing at the level you could and should be. Life determines that you’re not getting the lessons. Oh you think you’re maxed out and doing all that you possibly can. You think you’re being the best that you can be, then Whamo! Life gets your attention and provides you a clear, undeniable picture. Life says to you "...son, you can be better!"

Got it! And so I shall kids. And so I shall.

Thanks Life.

On the way out I want to switch things up a bit. Growing past the familiar "Life it Up!" epitaph to something a little more forward looking and thinking. Life has spoken, and says I can be better. And so... being the student of Life that I am I enthusiastically and filled with excitement say to you and Life...

Live some. Love some. Learn some. Everyday.  


Success: By The Numbers
By Tony Marino, Ph.D.

What is "success"? Why does it seem everyone wants "success"? What does "success" mean to you? Do you need "success"? Do you deserve "success"?

That's this week's focus!

Success. Where does it begin and what is it really?

According to Roget's International Thesaurus...

Success is...





When one examines the term "success" in this fashion, one can begin to see that "success" can be a fairly tall order. I mean success in most cases (our lives of simple normality), we were not simply born of it. Success must be achieved. Accomplishment must be attained. Prosperity must be built. Superiority must be earned. Victory must be won.

I am regularly blown away when I witness so many well-intentioned people try their hand at landing success right here on the NET; only to stumble and bumble through the massive quantities of gibberish found upon the browsers of millions of desktops and notebooks across the globe.

As I answer my hundreds of emails every week, I preach the same message time and again.

My sermon goes something like this...

Unless you have boat-loads of money to burn, you must build your structure one brick at a time. Time is the key.

Today's marketer consists of two separate categories...

Category #1

If you possess pockets deeper than the Grand Canyon itself,


You can easily and quite swiftly generate instant awareness about your product or service.  

Category #2  

If you are like most people and fit snugly into the upper 90% that must work to make a living,  


You must first begin to practice the following disciplines to make the most of your initial e-business efforts:  

1. Learn About Yourself...  

What makes you tick? What turns you on? What turns you off? And, most importantly, what are you most passionate about?  

2. Rely On Patience...  

Remind yourself again and again that your new e-business adventure will take a certain amount of time to build. Anything worthy of wearing the ribbon of success did not just happened overnight.  

3. Take "Baby Steps"...  

Don't let the mystical world of "Smoke and Mirrors" send you into instant hyperventilation. Savor your e-business delicacy one bite at a time. Don't race from here to there with arrival of every new email opportunity. Work one e-business venture at a time.  

4. Align Yourself With Successful People...  

Remember, "Success breeds success"! If the person or company you are currently following is racing Mach 10 with their hair on fire exuding that "Deer-in-the-headlights" look, run quickly and furiously in any other direction than the one in which they are going. Hang with those that have proven their success and are more than willing to take you under their wing.  

5. Have A Clue...  

If you fail to plan than you plan to fail. Whether on a napkin or square sheet of toilet paper, write down your game plan. Always assume that if you do not write it down, you will forget. How can you sell your product or service if you yourself don't know what you're talking about. View your memoirs as a form of a contract to yourself.


4 Tips to Unleash Your Inner Brilliance and Creativity

If you’ve often wondered if there’s a way to make yourself smarter and more creative, good news – there is! In fact, there are many different things you can do to enhance your creativity and increase your level of intelligence.

Never Stop Learning

If you have a life filled with learning new things, chances are your creativity and general intelligence will be higher, too. Taking a college class in something you’re interested in, or something you don’t know much about can help your mind expand in new directions.

Reading is also an important component of learning. Those who read a variety of things, from biographies and fiction to trade publications and newspapers, are more likely to have the creative areas of their brain stimulated. Reading on your own is always a positive thing, but you can also take a literature course at a local college or join a book club if you enjoy discussing what you’ve read with others.

Take Risks

It’s well-known that taking risks in your daily life can make you smarter and increase your creativity. When you get out of your comfort zone, you’re more likely to learn new things, interact with people who challenge your assumptions, and see problems from a different, more creative point of view. Consider getting a new, more challenging job, traveling somewhere you’ve never been before, applying to get a master’s degree in a new field of study, or taking a course in a language you don’t speak.

Go Somewhere New

It’s said that your environment can greatly affect your creativity and intelligence. If you’re in college or will be in the near future, consider studying abroad. The change in environment and all the little things associated with being in a completely foreign culture is a great way to expand your mind, making you smarter and more creative. If you can’t make such a bold move, think about moving to a different part of town, or taking a new job in a different city. The increase in your intelligence and creativity from such a small change could be surprising.

Take Good Care of Yourself

Sometimes, your brilliance and creativity will suffer because of your physical, mental, or emotional health. To achieve greater intelligence and creativity, it’s important to take care of your body. This means getting enough sleep, drinking enough water, exercising regularly, and eating food that is healthy and nourishing. If you have mental or emotional issues that are causing you problems, it’s important to address them with a licensed therapist or counselor who can help you deal with those issues. If your body and mind aren’t healthy, then it’s difficult to make yourself smarter or more creative.

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Hundred Wise Words For Everyone. Number 28 Is Gold.

An Econ Teacher Gave His Senior High School Students His Personal List Of Wisest Words… And They Make A Lot Of Sense.

  1.         There are plenty of ways to enter a pool. The stairs is not one of them.

2.         Never cancel dinner plans by text message.

3.         Don’t knock it till you try it.

4.         If a street performer makes you stop walking, you owe him a buck.

5.         Always use “we” when referring to your home team.

6.         When entrusted with a secret, keep it.

7.         Don’t under estimate free throws in a game of HORSE.

8.         Just because you can doesn’t mean you should.

9.         Don’t dumb yourself down.

10.     You only get once chance to notice a new haircut.

11.     If you’re staying more than one night, unpack.

12.     Never park in front of a bar.

13.     Expect the seat in front of you to recline. Prepare accordingly.

14.     Keep a picture of your first fish, first car, and first girl/boyfriend.

15.     Hold your heroes to a high standard.

16.     A suntan is earned, not bought.

17.     Never lie to a doctor.

18.     All guns are loaded.

19.     Don’t mention sunburns. Believe me, they know.

20.     The best way to say thanks is to wear it. Even it’s only once.

21.     Take a vacation of your cell phone, internet and TV once a year.

22.     Don’t fill up on bread, no matter how good.

23.     A handshake beats an autograph.

24.     Don’t linger in the doorway. In or out.

25.     If you choose to go in drag, don’t sell yourself short.

26.     If you want to know what makes you unique, sit for a caricature.

27.     Never get a haircut the day of a special event.

28.     Be mindful of what comes between you and the Earth. Always buy good shoes, tires and sheets.

29.     Never eat lunch at your desk if you can avoid it.

30.     When you are with new friends, don’t just talk about old friends.

31.     Eat lunch with the new kids.

32.     When you’re traveling, keep your wits about you. No matter where you are.

33.     It’s never too late for an apology.

34.     Don’t pose with booze. It’s unbecoming.

35.     If you have the right of way. TAKE IT.

36.     You don’t get to choose your own nickname.

37.     When you marry someone, remember you marry the whole family.

38.     Never push someone of a dock.

39.     Under no circumstances should you ask a woman if she’s pregnant.

40.     It is not enough to be proud of your ancestry, live up to it.

41.     Don’t make a scene.

42.     When giving a thank you speech, short and sweet is best.

43.     Know when to ignore the camera.

44.     Never gloat.

45.     Invest in great luggage.

46.     Make time for your mother on her birthday.  It’s a special day for her too.

47.     When opening presents, no one likes a good guesser.

48.     Sympathy is a crutch. Never fake a limp.

49.     Give credit. Take blame.

50.     Suck it up every now and then.

51.     Never be the last one in the pool.

52.     Don’t stare.

53.     Address everyone that carries a gun professionally.

54.     Stand up to bullies. You only have to do it once.

55.     If you’ve made your point, stop talking.

56.     Admit it when you’re wrong.

57.     If you offer help, don’t quit until the job is done.

58.     Look people in the eye when you thank them.

59.     Thank the bus driver.

60.     Never answer the phone at the dinner table.

61.     Forgive yourself for your mistakes.

62.     Know at least one good joke.

63.     Don’t boo. Even the ref is somebody’s son.

64.     Know how to cook one good meal.

65.     Learn to drive manual/stick shift.

66.     Be cool to younger kids. Reputations are built over a lifetime.

67.     It’s okay to go to the movies by yourself.

68.     Dance with your mother/father.

69.     Don’t lose your cool. Especially at work.

70.     Always thank the host.

71.     If you don’t understand, ask before it’s too late.

72.     Know the size of your boyfriend/girlfriend’s clothes.

73.     There’s nothing wrong with a plain t-shirt.

74.     Be a good listener. Don’t just take your turn to talk.

75.     Keep your word.

76.     In college always sit near to the front. You’ll stand out immediately and come grade time it will come in handy.

77.     Carry your mother’s bags. She carried you for nine months.

78.     Be patient with airport security. They are just doing their job.

79.     Don’t be talker in a movie.

80.     The opposite sex likes people who shower.

81.     You are what you do. Not what you say.

82.     Learn how to change a tire.

83.     Be kind. Everyone has a hard fight ahead of them.

84.     An hour with grandparents is time well spent. Ask for advice when you need it.

85.     Don’t litter.

86.     If you have sister, get to know her boyfriend, or vice versa. Your opinion is important.

87.     You won’t always be the strongest or the fastest. But you can be the toughest.

88.     Never call someone before or after 9 am and 9 pm.

89.     Buy the orange properties in Monopoly.

90.     Make the little things count.

91.     Always wear bra to work.

92.     There is a fine line between looking sultry or slutty. Find it.

93.     You’re never too old to need your Mom.

94.     Ladies, if you make decision to wear heels on the first date commit to keeping them on and keeping your trap shut about how much your feet kill.

95.     Know the words of to national anthem.

96.     Your dance moves may not be the best, but I promise making a fool of yourself is more fun than sitting on the bench alone.

97.     Smile at strangers.

98.     Make goals.

99.     Being old is not dictated by your bedtime.

100.  If you HAVE to fight, punch first and punch hard.


Life isn't about keeping score

Life isn't about keeping score. It's not about how many people call you and it's not about who you've dated, are dating, or haven't dated at all. It isn't about who you've kissed, what sport you play, or which guy or girl likes you. It's not about your shoes or your hair or the color of your skin or where you live or go to school. In fact, it's not about grades, money, clothes, or colleges that accept you or not. Life isn't about if you have lots of friends, or if you are alone, and it's not about how accepted or unaccepted you are. Life just isn't about that. But life is about who you love and who you hurt. It's about how you feel about yourself. It's about trust, happiness, and compassion. Life is about avoiding jealousy, overcoming ignorance, and building confidence. It's about what you say and what you mean. It’s about seeing people for who they are and not what they have. Most of all, it is about choosing to use your life to touch someone else's in a way that could never have been achieved otherwise. These choices are what life's about.


Letting go of the old

So many of the people I talk and channel to are in the process of letting go of huge chunks of themselves, and I often think of the analogy of one foot on the dock and another in the boat – and the boat is moving away! Fragile equilibrium, sense of unbalance, as we move from who we were to who we are becoming.

And at this point of enormous change, for it is big, we can perhaps remember that we are the ones who instigated it, we who now find ourselves so surprised by it. Very much like someone who digs a hole in a forest beneath the trees… over time it fills up with leaves, branches – and on his way back that way one day, he falls in to the hole he dug himself, and is shattered to think "Who did this to me? What did I do to deserve this?"

If we can remove blame, regrets and shoulds and musts from our agenda, and incorporate the knowledge that even if we do not feel that way now, we surely knew what we were creating, surely knew that we would all be moving forwards into expansion into Oneness at this momentous time – and in the knowing, we also realized that we would need assistance – and so manifested many who would support us with their love, there in our lives at exactly the right moment, the angels we send to ourselves.

It is uncomfortable – so many of us are experiencing large shifts in our personal lives, in our professional lives, moving across continents to be where we feel we need to be now.. and perhaps the most important for us to remember is that all is well. Nothing is broken, nothing needs to be fixed. We can trust ourselves to do exactly the right thing at the right time, be at the right place at the right time, trust ourselves to know what we want for ourselves by following our inner voice, by allowing it a place in our lives, directing us day by day, moment by moment.

So perhaps – let go of that cliff, there is no real drop, no real scary distance to the sea below – let go and unfurl those wings that you created for this moment, now.

Let go – and fly.


Letting Yourself Making Mistakes Means Making Fewer of Them

By Heidi Grant Halvorson, Ph.D.

While some people seem eager to tackle new challenges, many of us are really just trying to survive without committing any major screw-ups. Taking on something totally new and unfamiliar is understandably frightening, since the odds of making a mistake are good when you are inexperienced. Small wonder that we greet new challenges with so little enthusiasm.

How can we learn to see things differently? How can we shift our thinking, and approach new responsibilities and challenges with more confidence and energy?

The answer is simple, though perhaps a little surprising: Give yourself permission to screw up. Start any new project by saying, "I'm not going to be good at this right away, I'm going to make mistakes, and that's okay." Letting yourself make mistakes means making fewer of them.

How can you reframe your goals in terms of getting better? Here are the three steps:

1.       Start by embracing the fact that when something is difficult and unfamiliar, you will need some time to really get a handle on it. You may make some mistakes, and that's OK.

2.       Remember to ask for help when you run into trouble. Needing help doesn't mean you aren't capable -- in fact, only the very foolish believe they can do everything on their own.

3.       Try not to compare yourself to other people -- instead, compare your performance today to your performance yesterday. Focusing on getting better means always thinking in terms of progress, not perfection.


What kind of a person am I

What kind of a person are you? The same is true of a seamstress, carpenter, accountant, teacher, student, homemaker, lawyer, mechanic, or an engineer or a manager... The question is, Who and what am I? What must I do to be at peace with myself? What can I be, for that is what I must be? A lucky few of us find the answers to these questions fairly early in life, and we work to develop into the people we can be and must be. We do that by looking at our deepest desires, and ask what would bring fulfillment for us. We ask what we would enjoy doing most, what we believe we have the ability to be really good at. What is it that sometimes burns within us to be expressed or done? The answers to what we can be, what we must be, come from within, through asking ourselves these questions.

What kind of a person am I capable of being?


Forget Your Failings and Focus on Your Feats

By Michael Angier

It seems to be human nature to remember the things we messed up more than we do the things we did well. Most of us tend to focus on what’s wrong rather than on what’s right.

Even people with positive attitudes fall into the trap of discounting their successes and inflating their failings.

The fact is, we’re being programmed all the time, and most of it isn’t helpful.

Problems, negative news, complaints and criticisms get more of our attention than accomplishments, good news and compliments.

The wise person understands this and takes charge of his or her programming. They use affirmations, they visualize and they listen to good tapes and read good books.

They spend time with positive, supportive people.

I urge you to incorporate two lists into your life … lists you maintain and review.

Use these lists to help you stay focused on what works instead of spending so much time and energy on what doesn’t.

These two lists are your “Win List” and your “Significant Accomplishments List”.

One of the things my clients are beginning to document are their accomplishments. This helps them to increase their focus on their progress and helps other members of their team be more motivated and inspired.

My team is just getting started and already their progress is substantial.

I highly suggest that you start YOUR “Win List” today. Begin tracking all the good things that happen to you, the things you fix and overcome, the goals achieved, new clarities, etc.

Your “Significant Accomplishments List” is important, too. It may take a while to recollect all the things you’ve achieved and list them for easy, and hopefully, for regular review.

It’s human nature to discount the value of what we’ve done, especially when it didn’t seem too hard for us to achieve. But even if it didn’t require a lot of struggle on your part, it’s still a good thing to put it on the “Significant Accomplishment” List.

Action Point

Get started today building your “Significant Accomplishments List” and your “Win List”. Review them often. Bask in the good things you've drawn into your life. Watch your attitude improve and your accomplishments increase.

What we focus on expands, so let’s focus on the right things. Building and using these two lists will do just that for you.

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The Power of Being Flexible

We live in times of constant and rapid change. Because of this, one of the most important qualities you can develop to succeed in the 21st century is the quality of flexibility. Flexibility means approaching life's circumstances with an open mind ever ready to make course changes.

The opposite of flexibility is rigidity and hard-headedness. The unwillingness to change in the face of new circumstances. You must learn to be flexible because whenever circumstances change, the person that can adapt first will win.

Some people focus on how things "should" be. Things will seldom be as they should be, so focusing on should be's is a waste of time and energy. Should be's are meaningless. The only thing that matters is what is.

Whenever you are trying to accomplish something, don't worry too much about how you "should" go about getting results. Focus on whether you are getting results. Is your approach working? If not, change approaches.

Be open to new ideas and information. One new idea could literally transform your life. It could make or lose you a fortune. That is why reading is so critical to success. Because in the information age, whoever has the best information  and acts on it, wins.

There are three statements that you need to start using more if you want to be more flexible. These statements are tough to use but they will save you time, energy, grief and pain. The first one is, "I was wrong." The second one is, "I made a mistake." And the third one is, "I changed my mind."

Start using these phrases and you'll instantly become more productive. Next time you realize you were wrong, you made a mistake, or you changed your mind about something, say so, and everybody will get on with resolving the problem or achieving the goal.

It's tough to verbalize these things but if you want to accomplish great things, you need to make a decision to put your ego aside. You see, you can either be right or you can be rich. It's your choice.

Admitting you were wrong, you made a mistake, or you changed your mind is not being weak. On the contrary - it's a mark of courage and character. People will look up to you.

Remember, the important thing is to reach your goal. If your attitude is one of knowing that there is always a way and there may be a better way, you will eventually reach your goal in the most unexpected ways.  


Where do you want to be in a year
By Clyde Dennis

Where do you want to be in a year? In five years? In ten years? Is what you’re doing now -- the way you’re living, your friends, your habits, your focus -- Are all of these things moving you in the direction of your goals? How does it look?

Are your habits the kinds of habits that the person you’re going to be in two years would have? Are your friends or associates, or whatever you call the people you hang out with the types of people you’re going to be in five years you will want to know and be with?

What abo ut the things your mind gets hung up on? Your focus. Do you even know what your focus is?

If you and I were sitting together right now (and pretend we are), what would your answer be if I asked you where you’re going? What are you focused on accomplishing or achieving? You are certainly focused on something. Either consciously or your subconscious has chose something for you. Which is it in your case? Did you choose or has the world chosen for you? Have you taken 10 minutes and made a conscious decision about what the definition of your life is going to be? That’s really all it would take. In reality, even less than that.

Think about it. Have you ever been so fed up with something that at one point you just decide—that’s it, no more. I’ve had it! How long did it take you to come to that decision? The real truth is you did it in an instant. It may have taken you years to get to the point where you decided to decide but, the decision itself was made in an instant. A second. You have that same force, power and ability to get yourself moving in the direction of your choosing at any given moment if you would but decide to do so.

Don’t be one who gets ten years further down the road and be left thinking, wondering, wishing you had decided to do something. Do it now. Decide.

Live some. Love some. Learn some. Everyday.


Starting Your Day Like a Champion
(From Ruben's book "Becoming Unstoppable.")

The quality of your state of mind determines the quality of your results in whatever you do. The things you do first thing in the morning set your mental tone for the rest of the day. I challenge you to get radical for the next 30 days. To do something you have never done before.

If you do this for the next 30 days, you will dramatically change your attitude, your focus, your intensity, and will be a different person. Your friends and family will ask you "What happened to you?" Trust me - if you do this for 30 days, you'll want to do it for the rest of your life. What do I have to do you ask?

For the next 30 days:

1. Go to bed 30 minutes earlier - no more late night TV. You'll need to get up early tomorrow.

2. When you go to bed, think about how it will feelwhen you realize your dream.

3. Get up 30 minutes earlier. Don't turn on your computer. These first 30 minutes will set the tone for the rest of your day, and the rest of your life.

4. Take a minute to write down your goals and dreams. You must write your goals down every day. Writing your goals down is an act of commitment that focuses your mind to take action (and in to be successful, action is the name of the game). (1 minute)

5. Take 3 minutes to write down WHY you want those dreams. What's driving you? Get specific. If your WHY is big enough the How will take care of itself. (3 minutes)

6. Get in front of a mirror and read your Champion's Creed Card. Read it with power and passion. Like you mean it. (1 minute)

The Champion's Creed

I am a champion.

I believe in myself.

I have the will to win.

I set high goals for myself.

I surround myself with winners.

I am cool, positive, and confident.

I am willing to pay the price of success.

I love the struggle and the competition.

I am relaxed and in control at all times.

I focus all my energy on the job at hand.

I take responsibility for all of my results.

I have the courage to endure and persist.

I vividly imagine what victory will feel like.

I am a champion and I will win.

7. Close your eyes and vividly imagine what it will feel like when you actually make your dream a reality. Get all your senses involved and allow yourself to get passionate. (5 minutes)

8. Write down the three most important things you must do today to get you closer to your dream - then, do them sometime today! Many people get great results by doing this step the night before. (3 minutes)

9. Read 15-20 minutes from a positive, inspiring, motivating book. (15-20 minutes).

10. On the way to school, rather than listening to the radio, listen to a positive, inspiring, motivating self-development CD (Zig Ziglar, Les Brown, Denis Waitley, Brian Tracy).

I guarantee that if you do this for the next 30 days, your life WILL change. Because your attitude will change.

Put it into action: Start your day with the 30 power minutes.

Reading List

 As a Man Thinketh - James Allen

 Success! the Glen Bland Method - Glenn Bland

 How to Win Friends and Influence People -Dale Carnegie

 Man’s Search for Meaning - Viktor Frankl

 How to Have Power and Confidence in Dealing with People -Les Giblin

 Think & Grow Rich - Napoleon Hill

 Life is Tremendous - Charlie Jones

 See You at the Top -Zig Ziglar

 Personality Plus - Florence Littauer

 You and Your Network - Fred Smith

 The Power of Positive Thinking - Norman Vincent Peale

 Tough Times Never Last but Tough People Do - Robert Schuller

 Slaying The Dragon - Michael Johnson

 Create Your Own Future -Brian Tracy

 Seeds of Greatness -Dennis Waitley

 The Alchemist -Paulo Coelho

 Simple Steps to Impossible Dreams - Kevin Scott

 Becoming A Person of Influence - John Maxwell

 Winning Every Day - Lou Holtz

 Rhinoceros Success - Scott Alexander

 They Call Me Coach - John Wooden

 Awaken The Giant Within - Tony Robbins

 I Dare You - William Danforth

 Dare To Win - Mark Victor Hansen

 The Magic Of Thinking Big - David Schwartz

 Finding The Champion Within - Bruce Jenner

 The Total Money Makeover - Dave Ramsey

 The Power of Full Engagement - Jim Loehr

 My Utmost for His Highest - Oswald Chambers

 The Traveler's Gift - Andy Andrews

 Wooden on Leadership - John Wooden

 General Patton's Principles - Porter Williamson

 Copyright © 2007 Ruben Gonzalez


How to Rebound from Setbacks

By Ruben Gonzalez

When I was 21 years old, I made a decision to take up the sport of luge and pursue my lifelong dream of competing in the Olympic Games.

Many people tried to discourage me. I was told that I was too old, that I would break bones, and that nine out of ten people who took up the luge quit along the way. 

Instead of getting discouraged, I got excited. You see, nine out of ten people quit everything. Nine out of ten people quit sales, they quit medical school, they quit on themselves, and worst of all, they quit on their dreams. I knew from the start that it would be a challenge, but as long as I didn't quit, I would have a chance.

Four years and a few broken bones later I was competing in the Calgary Olympics. I went on to compete in the Albertville Olympics and in the Salt Lake City Olympics - at the age of 39!

You will experience challenges and setbacks on the way to your dream as well. That's just part of the game. But if you want something badly enough, and you are willing to persevere, success is there for the taking. Success is a choice.

Go All The Way

When you make a decision that quitting is not an option, before long you will be in the top 10% in your field because 90% of your competition will quit. Your motto needs to be, "Every day in every way I'm getting better and better, stronger and stronger, closer and closer to my dream!"

Create a "Dream Team"

Ninety percent of success in determined by whom you associate with. Create a "Dream Team" of people who believe in you and will encourage you through tough times.

Give Yourself a Pep Talk

It's easy to get down when things are not going your way. After a bad luge run, sometimes I have to walk up and down the track for 20 minutes giving myself a pep talk. "I can do it, I'm going all the way, I will make it cause there's always a way!" 

When you get down, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and give yourself a pep talk.

Believe in Yourself and Learn from Your Mistakes

High achievers believe that they are destined to accomplish great things. They believe that the challenges they experience are there to teach them the lessons they need to learn in order to complete their "mission" in life. They believe there is no such thing as failure. They either get the desired outcome or else they learn something that will help them win in the future. By thinking this way, discouragement can't get a foothold in their mind.

Most successful people fail their way to the top. You could say I crashed my way to the top! 

Recover Quickly

When winners experience challenges, they don't waste time whining. They keep their eyes on the dream, and then do whatever it takes to recover quickly so they will not lose their momentum. When a boxer gets knocked down, he has only 10 seconds to get back up. If he gets up in eleven seconds, he loses the fight. Remember that the next time you get knocked down.

Next time you get knocked down, decide you will act like a winner. Get up, take action, and make your dream a reality.

Copyright © 2007 Ruben Gonzalez


What surprises me most about humankind?

That they get bored with childhood, they rush to grow up, and then long to be children again.

That they lose their health to make money... and then lose their money to restore their health.

That by thinking anxiously about the future, they forget the present, such that they live in neither the present nor the future.

That they live as if they will never die, and die as though they had never lived.


In this special moment in life ...

Think freely. Practice patience.

Smile often. Savor special moments.

Make new friends. Rediscover old ones.

Tell those you love that you do. Feel deeply.

Forget trouble. Forgive an enemy.

Hope. Grow. Be crazy. Observe miracles.

Make them happen. Discard worry.

Give. Give in. Trust enough to take.

Pick some flowers. Share them. Keep a promise.

Look for rainbows. Gaze at stars.

See beauty everywhere. Work hard. Be wise.

Try to understand. Take time for people.

Make time for yourself. Laugh heartily.

Spread joy. Take a chance. Reach out.

Let someone in. Try something new.

Slow down. Be soft sometimes. Believe in yourself.

Trust others. See a sunrise. Listen to rain. Reminisce.

Cry when you need to. Trust life. Have faith.

Enjoy wonder. Comfort a friend. Have good ideas.

Make some mistakes. Learn from them. Celebrate life.


Let Go of List of Errors

Where did that anxiety you feel in your stomach come from?

You were going along just fine, and then suddenly you began to feel fraught with anxiety about what you said or what you wrote or what you did, about how you could have done it differently, better, how you could have spoken up or not spoken at all, how you may have over-asserted yourself or not asserted yourself enough. The list could go on. There is no lack of recommendations for despair. You find an old list of errors you have made or might have made. You reread and reread this list, as if somehow despite its appearance, it might be helpful to you.

Helpful to you? Of course your anxiety-provoking list is not helpful to you. Quite the opposite. It is to the detriment of you.

You thought you were free of all your anxiety, yet somehow, little by little, it has crept its way back in again. Insidious is this little snake anxiety. How camouflaged it is as it slinks its way in, and you, you are not aware until suddenly it's right in front of you, and it has eaten away at your very foundation. Because of this anxiety, you feel undermined. You have gone back to that old and frayed shopping list. There is nothing worth buying on it.

I shall write you a new shopping list. Throw out the old one once and for all. Replace it with this one that I give to you now. This is your new shopping list I give to you. Understand it well:

"I am a fine person just as I am.

"I mean to do good, and I do.

"I no longer second-guess myself. I leave myself alone. If I don't like now what I said or wrote or did, I cross it out from all lists now, once and for all. What I did or didn't do doesn't matter. It is in the past. I know that the sun comes out, and that rain dries up. I am probably the only person thinking at all about this that I regret. There simply is no percentage in thinking of it, not even once. No matter how recent, no matter how big or how small, when I allow nagging thoughts from the past, I subtract from the strength of loving myself.

"It is important that I love myself. It is important for my sake and for the sake of all around me. I must not regret nor must I find fault with myself, for I am the leader of a parade, and it is for me to lead a calm content parade. My parade goes through all the side streets and the main ones too, and it goes according to the tenor of my thoughts. I want to lead the kind of parade I want to lead. I refuse to lead a dismal one.

"When my thoughts cause me anxiety, I drop those thoughts. I do not keep them for even one minute, for they are destructive thoughts. These thoughts worm their way in and don't want to let go. They have to be evicted, and I am the one who must evict them.

"This is easy to do now. I shake them off. I hardly give them a backward glance, and I say to them clearly:

"Regretful anxiety-provoking thoughts, you have no business being here. You don't belong here. You don't belong anywhere. You are like black-out shades, and you have pulled yourself down, and you have blocked my view.

"You want to keep me small and anxiety-ridden. But I see you now for what you are. You are a malcontent, and you like to step on my sense of well-being and sneak yourself and your other buddy thoughts in.

"You are invasive and erosive.

"You can't stay here any longer. You have to leave, and you have to leave now.

"So now, without further ado, leave. I throw you out, and you cannot come back."



I once told a man that I no longer voted.

He responded by telling me this.
The choice of whether I voted or not was why he waded through rice paddies, toted guns, and fought battles.

It wasn't long afterward that I began to vote again.

I once told a man a lie.

He responded by telling me this.
All of the decisions that he made were based upon the words that I spoke.

I have long since told the truth.

I once became upset over a gift I received, because it wasn't what I wanted.

The giver saw the disappointment in my eyes and told me this. He chose the most valuable gift he could find, because he felt I should have it.

I am since very joyful over each gift that I receive.

A man once told me a secret which I quietly whispered in another friend's ear.

The man told me this, after hearing his own secret repeated. The reason he told me the secret was because he trusted me, not my friend.

I no longer take trust so lightly.

I once gave a gift to a friend and she cried.

I told her it was just a small gift I had found. Her response was that it was not the gift, it was that I had thought of her.

I now give gifts often.

The shiny coin was not to be mine, so I had been told.
But on my way out the door, it found its way in my hand.
When it was discovered that I had stolen the coin,
I was quietly taken aside.

The owner of the coin told me this.
Integrity is given with a choice.

I have since chosen to stand with integrity.

Once I told a man of all of my dreams.

He smiled warmly and even chuckled then asked if I ever planned on living any of them.

I now choose the spending of my days very differently.

I watched a man daily as he walked... head down... so focused.

I was curious and inquired as to why he never looked up.

The look on his face was one of surprise, but he responded.

His world was so structured that he didn't have to look where he placed his foot and there was nothing else to look at.

I make it a point to never stare at my feet, for fear of creating tunnels. I wanted so much to merely be myself, going unnoticed and not draw attention.

And I was told this.

The fact that you do not conform makes you stand out all the more. I'm still thinking about that one.


Get Started and Don't Quit

(From Ruben Gonzalez's book "Becoming Unstoppable.")

There are two parts of courage that lead to success. The first part is the willingness to begin, to act in faith, to step out boldly in the direction of your goals with no guarantee of success. The second part of courage is the willingness to endure, to persist, to refuse to give up, and to keep on working harder than anyone else.

Most people talk themselves out of even going for their dream. And most of the ones who make the attempt quit as soon as the going get tough. It's so sad. Because everyone has the ability to make their dreams come true. It's sad that so few people have the willingness to do what it takes.

That's why we root for the underdog. That's why we love movies like Rocky and Rudy. Because all of us have felt like the underdog at one time or another. Because seeing the underdog win gives us hope that we can win too.

Once you get started on the road to making your dreams a reality, you must make the decision to never quit. The decision to never give up gives you a huge advantage. The person who is most determined usually wins.

A study on goals and perseverance found that 95% of the goals that people set are ultimately achieved, as long as the person didn't give up. Ninety five percent! That's almost a guarantee. A guarantee that if you refuse to quit you will eventually win. The main reason people fail is not because of lack of ability or opportunities. They fail because they lack the inner strength to persist in the face of obstacles and difficulties.

Don't worry about failing. Failing is how you learn. You can fail over and over again, but all it takes is one big success to wipe out all your previous failures. The only time you can't afford to fail is the last time you try. The more you persist, the more you will believe in yourself. And the more you believe in yourself, the more you persist. Your persistence is a measure of how much you believe in yourself and how much you believe in your ability to succeed. If you act as if you are guaranteed to succeed, your belief will grow. Because emotion follows motion.

What you do determines how we will feel. Act in spite of your fears and commit to not quit, and I'll promise you that the winner inside you will burst forth to propel you to victory.

Copyright © 2007 Ruben Gonzalez


Things I Wish I'd Known Before I Went Out In The Real World

1. Never give yourself a haircut after three martinis.
2. Everyone seems normal until you get to know them.
3. Any and all compliments can be handled by simply saying, Thank you," although it helps if you say it     with a SOUTHERN accent.
4. No books will be as good as the ones you loved as a child.
5. Some people are working backstage, some are playing in the orchestra, some are onstage singing, some are in the audience as critics, and some are there to applaud. Know who and where you are.
6. When baking, follow directions. When cooking, go by your own taste.
7. Never continue dating anyone whom is rude to the waiter.
8. Work is good but it's not important!
9. A person needs only two tools: WD-40 and duct tape. If it doesn't move and it should, use WD-40. If it moves and shouldn't, use the tape.
10. If you tell a lie, don't believe it deceives only the other person.
11. The five most essential words for a healthy, vital relationship: "I apologize" and "You are right".
12. When you make a mistake, make amends immediately! It's easier to eat crow while it's still warm.
13. The only really good advice that I remember my mother ever gave me was "Go! You might meet somebody!"
15. Never ride a motorcycle when you're drunk.
16. If your date says that you are too good for him or her; believe it.
17. I've learned to pick my battles. I ask myself: Will this matter one year from now? How about one month? One week? One day?
18. The shortest line is always the longest.
19. At hard times I ask myself, "How do I feel? What do I want?" I use it whenever I'm at loss for words or thoughts.
20. Never pass up an opportunity to use the bathroom.
21. If you woke up breathing, congratulations! You have another chance!
22. If you move far from your family when you're young, consider choosing a career with an airline. Your need to see your family will last a lifetime, as will your travel benefits.
23. Living well really is the best revenge.
24. Being miserable because of a bad or former relationship just proves that the other person was right about you.
25. Never underestimate the kindness of your fellow man.
26. And finally, being happy doesn't necessarily mean everything's perfect. It just means you've decided to look beyond all of the imperfections.

So go out and don't let anyone steal your sunshine!


Creating Opportunity

An enterprising person is one who comes across a pile of scrap metal and sees the making of a wonderful sculpture. An enterprising person is one who drives through an old decrepit part of town and sees a new housing development. An enterprising person is one who sees opportunity in all areas of life. To Your Success…

To be enterprising is to keep your eyes open and your mind active. It's to be skilled enough, confident enough and creative enough and disciplined enough to seize opportunities that present themselves...regardless of the economy.

A person with an enterprising attitude says, "Find out what you can before action is taken." Do your homework. Do the research. Be prepared. Be resourceful. Do all you can in preparation of what's to come.

Enterprising people always see the future in the present. Enterprising people always find a way to take advantage of a situation, not be burdened by it. And enterprising people aren't lazy. They don't wait for opportunities to come to them, they go after the opportunities. Enterprise means always finding a way to keep yourself actively working toward your ambition.

Enterprise is two things. The first is creativity. You need creativity to see what's out there and to shape it to your advantage. You need creativity to look at the world a little differently. You need creativity to take a different approach, to be different.

What goes hand-in-hand with the creativity of enterprise is the second requirement: the courage to be creative. You need courage to see things differently, courage to go against the crowd, courage to take a different approach, courage to stand alone if you have to, courage to choose activity over inactivity.

And lastly, being enterprising doesn't just relate to the ability to make a living. Being enterprising also means feeling good enough about yourself, having enough self worth to want to seek advantages and opportunities that will make a difference in your future. And by doing so you will increase your confidence, your courage, your creativity and your self-worth - your enterprising nature.


Our Choices

We get so mixed up, trying to sort out our lives – our interminable tangles, conundrums, uncertainties, all in our minds all the time, chatter, chatter, choose, choose… and this detracts us from our purpose here. Which is – live life to the fullest and be happy and create the best you can.

We find ourselves focused on and living mediocre lives, our dreams stashed away in places we do not even remember, covered in dust since our childhood. And then we encounter the Law of Attraction, by "accident", start reading about it, attract people who support our vision of our new lives, and hope creeps into our lives, sometimes overnight. Hope that we can have more, hope that we can change things, and most of all, hope that we can be happy.

We have our bad days, our ups and down, but once an awakening starts, once we realize that we are in control, even if only for a moment, we start an unfolding of a whole process, planned and expected for lifetimes.. the unfolding of you into You – the expanded You, the creative You, the You who knows, the You who shines – and most of all the You who can move mountains by simply intending them.

Which of course you can. You are limited by your own limiting thoughts, and nothing else. What you intend you attract, and when you focus on the meadow beyond the padlock in the gate, the meadow becomes all there is – a new life, happiness, expansion. This is no sales jargon – it is who We are, who We can all be. And we change – let go of old constructs, gently move beyond them, shimmering shapes that we are, expanding into the bigger Us. Touching each other in the process, holding each other up, loving unconditionally and understanding each other's processes, the paths we all take to become Us.

There is hope. You are the hope. Live your life fully – live it out loud. It is all within your grasp.


In this special moment in life ...

Think freely. Practice patience.

Smile often. Savor special moments.

Make new friends. Rediscover old ones.

Tell those you love that you do. Feel deeply.

Forget trouble. Forgive an enemy.

Hope. Grow. Be crazy. Observe miracles.

Make them happen. Discard worry.

Give. Give in. Trust enough to take.

Pick some flowers. Share them. Keep a promise.

Look for rainbows. Gaze at stars.

See beauty everywhere. Work hard. Be wise.

Try to understand. Take time for people.

Make time for yourself. Laugh heartily.

Spread joy. Take a chance. Reach out.

Let someone in. Try something new.

Slow down. Be soft sometimes. Believe in yourself.

Trust others. See a sunrise. Listen to rain. Reminisce.

Cry when you need to. Trust life. Have faith.

Enjoy wonder. Comfort a friend. Have good ideas.

Make some mistakes. Learn from them. Celebrate life.


In Good Time

By Ralph Marston

Life always comes to you in good time. There's no need to rush it, and nothing to be gained by attempting to hold it back.

Some things will take longer than you thought they would. Go ahead and get them completed anyway.

Some things will arrive sooner than you anticipated. Go ahead and deal with them when they do.

Make good and thoughtful use of every moment that comes your way. Peacefully let go of any anxiety or resentment about how little time you have or how much time it takes, and simply give your best as time continues to flow.

In good time, you'll get it done. In good time, you'll look back and know without a doubt that you have indeed been moving forward.

The day ahead is filled with opportunities for joy and fulfillment. Give yourself completely to each moment as it comes, and in good time you'll fill your world with richness.

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